The idea of moving on feels intolerable to me. And I hate it when people think of this as just a "stage" as if to imply that someone you love is dispensable. I agree that using this time to work on myself is the best proposition.
Wish I had more definite answers as to why she left. It happened so abruptly, her personality changed overnight, literally, and was sparked by something I discovered which has led to an enormous amount of guilt.
The OP is a naive puszy and the rest of you are a bunch of saps.
It's over. The sooner you GTF over it you'll get some respect for yourself and find someone you deserve.
Quit whining and cut it loose.
First know that the chances of you getting back together are slim. Second use what worked in the past, show her the things that made her fall for you in the first place. You probably stopped doing those things which is why she broke up with you.
Google Corey Wayne getting her back. Focus on yourself and just have fun.
She is gettin' the d elsewhere. Your hungry cloying neediness dries her up like the Gobi Desert.
f 12a wrote:
The idea of moving on feels intolerable to me.
Why.
I hate it when people think of this as just a "stage" as if to imply that someone you love is dispensable.
She's not dispensable; she's living her life how she wishes.
Wish I had more definite answers as to why she left. It happened so abruptly, her personality changed overnight, literally, and was sparked by something I discovered which has led to an enormous amount of guilt.
Elaborate please.
have more fun - that way you're doing something positive while you see if things get better. If you're sitting around hoping she'll come back to you then you're looking pathetic and if she does look back she'll know she made the right decision.
Hop on a plane, hike a trail, re-connect with old friends, win a race, start a blog, build something. She broke up with you for a reason - you need to get better - for her or the next.
Are you kidding me wrote:
The OP is a naive puszy and the rest of you are a bunch of saps.
It's over. The sooner you GTF over it you'll get some respect for yourself and find someone you deserve.
Quit whining and cut it loose.
^
This. But substitute delusional for naive.
I keep hearing the standard replies - man up, get on with your life, etc...
I AM focusing on myself right now. My career, my running. How does letting her know that I miss her from time to time make me look pathetic?
I would think that doing the opposite and making it look like I'm getting along just fine would send another message 1) I don't need you and 2) What we had together wasn't that special
Neither of which is true.
To answer a previous poster, she left me in a fit of anger after she discovered I had invaded her privacy.
f 12a wrote:
How does letting her know that I miss her from time to time make me look pathetic?
Were you serious asking that question?
Are you sure you aren't the woman acting like a guy trying to get advice?
I think the source was drinkyourownurine.com
f 12a wrote:
I keep hearing the standard replies - man up, get on with your life, etc...
I AM focusing on myself right now. My career, my running. How does letting her know that I miss her from time to time make me look pathetic?
I would think that doing the opposite and making it look like I'm getting along just fine would send another message 1) I don't need you and 2) What we had together wasn't that special
Neither of which is true.
To answer a previous poster, she left me in a fit of anger after she discovered I had invaded her privacy.
sigh
Second "this"
f 12a wrote:
I keep hearing the standard replies - man up, get on with your life, etc...
I AM focusing on myself right now. My career, my running. How does letting her know that I miss her from time to time make me look pathetic?
I would think that doing the opposite and making it look like I'm getting along just fine would send another message 1) I don't need you and 2) What we had together wasn't that special
Neither of which is true.
To answer a previous poster, she left me in a fit of anger after she discovered I had invaded her privacy.
Good lord. You and that Jamin poster should get together.
There is no correct answer my friend. Good luck.
But I've been there and I feel for ya.
write a poem expressing your profound feelings for her
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f 12a wrote:
I keep hearing the standard replies - man up, get on with your life, etc...
I AM focusing on myself right now. My career, my running. How does letting her know that I miss her from time to time make me look pathetic?
I would think that doing the opposite and making it look like I'm getting along just fine would send another message 1) I don't need you and 2) What we had together wasn't that special
Neither of which is true.
To answer a previous poster, she left me in a fit of anger after she discovered I was her stalker.
reader of the forums wrote:
1) Stop initiating contact with her.
2) When she initiates contact with you, show disinterest.
3) Find another girl and get her into your life.
Girls are more attracted to guys that have women around them. It shows that they're socially valuable. It also makes them jealous.
If things ended between you two, it might not ever go back to the way it used to be, but by finding another girl, you might get her temporarily competitive enough for her to throw herself at you, i.e., you get another lay. From both of them ideally.
good luck
This is the best advice you will ever receive regarding a break up. You need to be seen as person of value. Someone who takes no crap, someone who enforces boundaries, someone who respects himself, and someone that other people desire.
Every time a woman wanted me back, it's because I left like a man, flat out disappeared and started dating other women.
You guys have given me good, practical advice. I can't deny that it probably works. But I'm just disgusted with the fact that you can't be yourself in these situations.
Just because I want her in my life, care for her, and because of those things, would like to keep communication open, shouldn't degrade my value.