No. You should wait until marriage to not have sex.
For your reference purposes:
http://www.letsrun.com/forum/flat_read.php?thread=1740988&page=0
No. You should wait until marriage to not have sex.
For your reference purposes:
http://www.letsrun.com/forum/flat_read.php?thread=1740988&page=0
Usually these ultra religious nut jobs abstain and are so excited to have sex they rush and get married while in or shortly after college. If they didn't wait, they would rush marriage and the would probably be more stable in life and less likely to get divorced.
I think that the only positive in waiting, is that sex can create a bond and screw with your thoughts and emotions, and maybe people get deeply involved in relationships too quickly because of it. I think waiting is good for some and not good for others. Depends on the personality and relationship type.
Well the data shows that the divorce rate is lower for virgins.
You make an interesting point with how it can create a bond and screw with making logical decisions.
True. That's exactly what I'm feeling. I just want to kill the feeling. I want to scoop out my emotions with a spoon, throw them on the floor and have a cat poop on them.
The Woman wrote:
I disagree that it shouldn't be complicated and that it should be done when it feels right. But I disagree about it not being special. For so long, I thought men trivialize it. But after experiencing a man's reaction after having it with me, I would say they think of it as a huge, important act. They generally rethink the relationship after the first time they do it with the woman - should they cut or continue? It impacts them greatly. The woman almost becomes their claimed territory, in a way. Even if he cuts off the relationship at that point, she is still part of his territory and any guy after is moving in. It bothers him because she is his.
Territory...geez. dehumanize much?
I agree it is dehumanizing, but it's also the only word that comes close to what happens. Men stake their claim, that's for sure.
"men"? generalize much?
The Woman wrote:
I agree it is dehumanizing, but it's also the only word that comes close to what happens. Men stake their claim, that's for sure.
Poster above already pointed this out but it is a really bad idea to make general statements about, "all men..." or "all women...". Such statements have a very low probability of being true.
Earth Being wrote:
If you want to completely take out the possibility of having children out of wedlock, then yes, wait until marriage.
Real geniuses on here today.
You're right, I need an exact percentage of men who do it.
Obviously I'm generalizing.
vivalarepublica wrote:
Went to two weddings this year, and both of the brides waited until marriage to have sex for religious reasons, but they are not crazy or anything. Both studied science and take a reasonable view towards evolution and various other scientific principles.
The grooms were not virgins, but I know them well and they did not sex with more than a few girls, at most. They met their wives in college, and decided they were solid enough women that they could wait. Both couples were married rather young, under 25.
The brides had that naivety and glow that you see in virgins, and an enthusiasm for little things that gets lost when serious adult topics invade too much of our lives. Not to say they were children, because they certainly could hack it as responsible adults.
I think waiting definitely spices up those first couple years of marriage that much more, and make the honeymoon that much more memorable. It also forces the couple to evaluate their mate on factors besides desire. And if they are happy with decisions and it does not hurt anybody else, then there is nothing wrong with that.
On the downside, if they did not live together before marriage and did not have sex, that could cause some serious marital problems down the road.
100 bucks says the brides lied about being virgins, or they were very ugly (I'm talking 4/10s)
Hookers don't want to get married. And it's wrong to wait when you've only got an hour.
You should only share bodily fluids until after marriage. No kissing, swallowing, rimmming, brojobs. You can hold hands and give hand jobs and necking is ok too.
What does rimming mean?
Nevermind, nevermind, nevermind!!
I know now.
The Woman wrote:
Nevermind, nevermind, nevermind!!
I know now.
Haven't met a woman yet who didn't love it.
I...I don't know.
The Woman wrote:
I...I don't know.
On the receiving end that is.
Up to you and your prospect. Unimaginable that someone would post such a question.
u dont share fluids when rimmming unless the person u rim has diahrea.
That's gross.
Condoms don't have a 100% success rate anyway.
"With perfect use, condoms prevent pregnancy with 98 percent success, according to the World Health Organization"