Just found out my little sister (23) smokes

[quote]could use some advice fellas wrote:

I'm hoping it's only a "I smoke when I drink" thing but she drinks a lot too so who knows how often. When I was with her she had 2 or 3 from about 10pm to 2am.

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Well, maybe I shouldn't be telling you this, but I was with her from 2:15am to 9am and she smoked a lot more than 2 or 3. Sorry.

yeah, you won't really care that your lil sis smokes cigarettes when you find out that she smokes a new dick every night.

So even running nerds can have smoking sisters

Normally I'd turn a blind eye to misdemeanors by close family members, but the severity of this is just shocking.

I think it's only right that you contact the authorities, explain the situation to them, and trust the legal system to deal with it in an appropriate way. It might be difficult to snitch on her but you have to remember that it's for her own good.

Honestly what has the world come to? It's depraved behavior like a fully grown and mature adult smoking that makes me lose all faith in humanity.

If she smokes she pokes.

swtich her to e-cigs. nicotine vapor is way better for you than tar in your lungs

Try this, maybe it'll help. Butt out and stop trying to have a say in the choices an adult makes in their lives. She's 23 and she grew up in the age of anti smoking ads and she made an informed decision and decided to smoke. Do I like smoking? No. I wouldn't date someone who smoked but it's their choice. Do I think that she's making a mistake? Yes, but it's her mistake to make. Let it go and worry about something else.

Haha. I was a pack-a-day smoker for 8 years.

could use some advice fellas wrote:

I'm hoping it's only a "I smoke when I drink" thing but she drinks a lot too so who knows how often. When I was with her she had 2 or 3 from about 10pm to 2am.

So she smokes AND drinks a lot? If she also has a tramp stamp, then she's hit the trifecta!

Gods Spell wrote:

yeah, you won't really care that your lil sis smokes cigarettes when you find out that she smokes a new dick every night.

Sorry OP, but she has an oral fixation. Be happy about the cigs. Every smoke is one less schlong.

Sounds like a social smoker. Check her car and home -- if she's smoking there, she's hooked.

A college educated 23 year old wouldn't just start smoking. Chances are she's been at it since high school. Probably 8-10 years now. Just isn't hiding it anymore. Guess big bro should have been watching more carefully when she was sneaking out of the house for a smoke..

Snitch wrote:

Normally I'd turn a blind eye to misdemeanors by close family members, but the severity of this is just shocking.

I think it's only right that you contact the authorities, explain the situation to them, and trust the legal system to deal with it in an appropriate way. It might be difficult to snitch on her but you have to remember that it's for her own good.

Honestly what has the world come to? It's depraved behavior like a fully grown and mature adult smoking that makes me lose all faith in humanity.

Thank you, Lauren. We'll get right on this.

Love all these "she's an adult, let her do whatever she wants" comments. So easy to let a total stranger slowly poison themselves to death. Completely different when it's your own family.

So yeah, don't listen to these asshats. Talk to your sister if you truly care about her.

My dad died from smoking... pancreatic cancer. It was horrific. He lost weight down to 80 pounds. The way he died still affects my sister 30 years later.

Eighty-five percent (85%) of lung cancers are caused by smoking. Smoking makes your breath stink and your teeth turn yellow. It makes your clothes smell like smoke.

Let's assume she develops a one pack a day habit and smokes until she is 65.

At the average retail cost of a pack of cigarettes of $5.51/pack. Those same funds invested monthly into a mutual fund averaging 8% return would grow to $685,000 in 42 years... the time she reaches age 65.

Lil Sis has know it is bad for her. She is 23 not 12. Is she dealing with some stress in her life? Be careful this could be gateway drug to much worse like cocaine. Next thing you know lil sis is turning tricks.

Skyart wrote:

Mr. Obvious wrote:

You need to get over yourself and realize that you are not in charge of your sister's choices. You may not like that she chooses to smoke but ultimately that is her choice.

Your mentality is stupid. Sure it is her choice, but what kind of person would let another do something stupid and not at least try to talk them out of it?Nothing wrong with trying to talk some sense into people.

Good luck with that. A sanctimonious older brother lecture should work wonders

For what it's worth, I am actually 23 as well, recently graduated college, have a steady job, and smoke about a couple packs a week, and have alot of experience with smokers. So I feel like im pretty similair to the OP's sister, and from my perspective, some things I would note to OP if he (or she) wants a serious response:

-I know ALOT of people who only smoke socially/when they drink. In fact I would say this is the majority of smokers I encounter. And most of them are in fact college graduates with white collar jobs. It just gives you more of a buzz. Just because someone is in this category does not mean they are a "real smoker." So if this is where you think your sister is, I wouldn't worry and I've seen alot of people stop this habit when they get into their late 20s.

-I am really close with my family and they HATE that I smoke. In dealing with the first part of that statement, I am open with my family about my habit. So I personally think that you should take it as a good thing that she is at least being open with you about her habit and not trying to hide this from you. However, in respect to the second part of my statement, I never smoke around them out of common courteousy.

-Now, if a family member ever told me that it is absolutely emotionally destroying them inside that I smoke, I would quit. But they usually just leave me alone, another than the occasional admonishment whenever a smoking commercial comes on when we're watching TV together.

-Biggest thing is, understand this is probably just a real shock to you more than anything. I personally wouldn't say anything about it for at least a couple of weeks to her, then you can reevaluate your strategy when you're in a less emotional state. I do understand that these sort of surprises are really hard to take in stride though, but you really should at least try. If you don't and you just try to discuss the issue with her, your emotions will probably just end up making you sound morally biggoted. Not that I'm saying you are at all, but alot of times it just comes off that way when you speak to soon without enough time for the mind to process things...