I would say you do. Is there any circumstance in which you shouldn't?
I would say you do. Is there any circumstance in which you shouldn't?
int hef uture wrote:
I would say you do. Is there any circumstance in which you shouldn't?
I would say if you're glad she's dead, you probably shouldn't go.
If you were only married for a short time and didn't have kids, I can't see why you would go.
I would not go to my ex-wife's funeral.
Nope.
This seems like a situation that would need to be evaluated on a case-by-case basis.
Factors to consider would include:
1) How long ago were you married?
2) Was your parting amicable?
3) Are you still friendly?
4) Are there children?
5) How long were you married?
6) Are you still friendly with any of her family?
There are probably others.
No, you go to prison!
If you had kids together then definitely yes. Even if you didn't it is still a good idea to go. A funeral is a time when regardless of what issues may have risen in the past you put them aside to pay your final respects. If you married her then you obviously felt very strongly about her at one point.
Note: I have never been married so I really don't know about what kind of hate there may be between the two people even if it has been years since the divorce.
I would never, ever, never go to an ex-wife's funeral, why the hell would you? The only exception I could foresee is if you had children together, the children were either already or became in your full custody, and they were too young to go alone and there was no one else trusted and available to take them. Thats a lot of "and's"
Without a doubt I'd go to my ex's funeral. 16 years together, 12 years married - RESPECT to anyone who could put up with me for that long.
Is there a meal afterwards?
I wouldn't go. We were young, married a short time, have no kids together, don't stay in touch, have no mutual friends, and never really liked each other anyway. I've had more meaningful relationships that lasted less than a month, yet I was married almost 4 years.
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I'd go to make sure she was dead
If there's some animosity between you and the family I would say don't go. If you've remarried and your current spouse wouldn't like it then don't go. If you had kids during the marriage you really should unless the ex's family would have a fit.
My godfather's ex went to his funeral. They'd been married a long time and had a daughter. No harsh feelings, and it was good for everyone to get together. A good reason to go.
My wife's ex died a few years after we were married. She found out through a friend, not the family. Arrangements were never publicized so it wasn't like she was invited, but parting wasn't so amicable so she wouldn't have gone anyway. My sister found out through the newspaper, not the obituary section, so pressing the family for funeral info would have made a bad situation worse. A good reason not to go.
int hef uture wrote:
I would say you do. Is there any circumstance in which you shouldn't?
In general if the relationship ended very badly and you've not been in touch or there has been post divorce problems I'd double think going but at one point there was enough love to get you hitched. As a number of folks have and I suspect more will say--each case is different, trite as it sounds go with your gut on this.
If you cheated on her, and that caused the marriage to split...probably should stay away.
Interesting question that I've never thought about.
Definitely tons of variables would be involved in the decision to go or not.
I couldn't imagine not going unless the marriage ended in a horrible fashion.
Yes
Unless there's a court order involved, go. It's the decent and polite thing to do. If her family gives you grief when you're there, explain you're just there to pay your respects. If they continue to resist, then you can gracefully make your exit. But make them be the transgressors, not you.