Need advice on getting my life back on track...

go to class and do your work for classes. This is the most important thing you can do to be successful. Get that degree.

ezseed wrote:

go to class and do your work for classes. This is the most important thing you can do to be successful. Get that degree.

Ezseed is right. Wake up each day with the goal of doing something to better your situation and at this point, that will involve going to classes. If you need money try to get the job with your father back and also, think positively. Why do you simply assume you will not get this other position because there are others also in contention. Think positive and project positivity. And if you don't get that job, try to reflect on why you didn't get it and work on improving whatever those deficiencies are.

When it feels your life is off track it can seem daunting to try to fix everything, but just focus on one thing at a time, one day at a time. So for now, go to class and do your schoolwork. Treat it like a job.

not_a_trollllll wrote:

Sometimes I think of just disappearing, going away and coming back years later only after changing the way my life is.

As a guy who has spent several years in various states of chronic failure, I can tell you that in my experience, wherever you go, you bring your problems with you. My $.02: make a stand where you are.

That's all I got. Good luck with the training.

I'm going to make the assumption to don't want to be around people because you think they see you as a failure and you embarassed by it - easiest to just avoid the problem and not show up to class. The reality is, the people in your class have no clue what your history is. They don't know you live in your parents' basement or are semi-unemployed. For all they know you are a highly successful business man who has lost interest in your current field and is looking to take a new professional direction. Don't carry your shame. Like the others said, show up to class and work hard. You will be rewarded and will succeed. And I must say, it is outstanding you can admit your decision to your self so young. Good luck. Keep us updated on your progress.

It is real simple.

The lame, dumb choices you have been making?

Stop them and start making Smart Choices.

Not going to class?

Start going to class.

Take Positive Actions as if you are addicted to them until they become your new habit.

Ask your father to forgive you (even if he's a douche...not that you implied such.)

Go a little easier on yourself, but Get Real Real with yourself too.

Oh, and 26 is not too late to get your stuff together.

Good Luck.

It is real simple.

The lame, dumb choices you have been making?

Stop them and start making Smart Choices.

Not going to class?

Start going to class.

Take Positive Actions as if you are addicted to them until they become your new habit.

Ask your father to forgive you (even if he's a doosh...not that you implied such.)

Go a little easier on yourself, but Get Real Real with yourself too.

Oh, and 26 is not too late to get your stuff together.

Good Luck.

Join the French Foreign Legion.

Travel. If you are not going the traditional route, travel provides a wonderful education and you will find inspiration. You may have to work your way around the country or world but it can be done. Google some of the travel sites and you will find some great advice there.

Same situation. I am your same age, I am working on a second bachelor's degree different from my first. Every day I dream about packing up everything and moving somewhere else but I know that will put me further back than I already am.

I've started talking to a counselor at my school about my assorted problems- she's suggested this thing called a Wellness wheel- I know, sounds gay, stupid, waste of time, etc. but basically the point is that you look at 6 areas of your life that contribute to you feeling good. Here's an example- this one has 7 areas to include Financial but the one I am working on does not.

http://www.washington.edu/provost/studentlife/healthandwellness/students/wellnesswheel.html

Basically my counselor instructed me to draw a diagram of this, then make a 2nd circle on the inside of the first. On the outside edge you are writing all the things you're already doing or doing correctly for each area- For instance in my physical wellness, I run every single day, I eat right, I don't do crack, etc.

On the inside circle you write your goals. For example in my social wellness goals I have to get involved with more activities and stop coming up with excuses to not make friends with people. Be more open minded to people.

If anything this has forced me to really think about the goals I have instead of just screwing around thinking about how I am a total failure at everything. It's also made me realize that I can fix things one at a time instead of looking at it like I need to completely overhaul my life. I know that if I can make conversation with someone and get to know them, I'm one step closer to my social wellness goals. I don't have to go out and try to be best friends with every person I meet.

I totally know your situation and it sucks and often times I feel like I am totally alone. Like I said I dream about running away and forgetting it all and starting over. That's not gonna help anything, it will hurt us more if anything.

Keep going to your classes, find a new purpose for going to school- sounds stupid but join some clubs, meet some people outside of your own circle, join a stupid rec league kickball team or something that you have never done. Don't give up!!

It wasn't until I was 28 with two young kids that I got serious and decide to head back to school. To make the story short, 7 years later after working full-time to support my family plus 25 hours each week devoted to my studies, I graduated number one in my degree program. Moved into my first position within my degree field and my salary shot up 20%. Two years later I jumped to a more senior position and gained another 50% in salary. One year later, left the big corporation I had been working for and jumped into consulting, trippling my earnings. Paid off all debt (except mortgage on my lovely second home), starting maxing out my retirement contributions, found Fox News and CNBC and started complaining about all those left wing socialists who are too lazy to go to class, too lazy to work and too lazy to want anything other than the spoils from my success.

Either shape up and be successful or go f*ck yourself and become a victim-loving democrat. Don't matter either way to me. What's it going to be?

Thanks everyone for the helpful advice, it really means a lot to me.

I will try my hardest at going to classes and getting my grades up so I can someday be good in my field.

Still I feel ashamed everyday I come home to my parents house, I should have been outta here a long time ago, but I´m in debt and don´t really have a job right now.

Traveling around the country is not really an option for me and I don´t live in the USA, so things are much harder here.

To make matters worse my effing car broke down today, just great timing...

P.S

my user name might have changed a lil because I´m using a different computer

not_a_troll.... wrote:

P.S

my user name might have changed a lil because I´m using a different computer

Did your "l" key break, too??? My God. There's no overcoming that.

Late Blumer wrote:

not_a_troll.... wrote:

P.S

my user name might have changed a lil because I´m using a different computer

Did your "l" key break, too??? My God. There's no overcoming that.

LOL, no, it didn´t. I just couldn´t remember how I had spelled it.

that made me laugh

I'm sorry you carry so much anger. Turn off the tv, take a deep breath, have a beer, and spend some time with your wife and kids.

Dude, 26 is really not THAT old at ALL. Yes, it's time to really buckle down and figure something out -- but there are countless people who change careers in their mid-30's, or even 40's. You're really not in that bad of a position.

But I would definitely make contact with your papa about getting that position back, if possible.

Have you considered that you may be suffering clinical depression, and you might benefit from counselling and possibly medication? I'd suggest you consider visiting your doctor to seek a referral to some kind of mental health specialist.

Good luck!

OP,

Regarding your shame about living with your parents. Do you pay rent? Have you talked with your parents about how long you plan to stay and when you plan to leave?

I've seen some friends move back in with parents, and in my opinion, a lot of the "shame" they felt came from not addressing some of those simple things.

1. If you don't pay any rent at all. It's hard to not feel like a free-loader. You don't have to pay a lot, but discussing this with your parents and contributing something for rent can go a long way to reducing the shame. In my opinion it should be some amount of cash, but you could talk to your parents about chores, etc. Think about it, they are incurring additional costs from you being there, not to mention if you're like lots people and create additional work for them via dirty dishes, laundry, cleaning, pets, plus loss of privacy.

2 What about food/groceries? If you're eating what they buy and not chipping in, then same thing goes. Contribute something, as the adult you are, and you will reduce the potential for hard feelings and shame.

3. Finally, I suggest you outline your plan for how long you plan to stay there. Talk to your parents and make sure they know your plan, and that they agree with it. Without doing this, there can be a lot of unspoken sh*t building up. And unspoken sh*t comes out in all kinds of subtle and not-so-subtle ways.

Good luck man, you've gotten some good advice from folks here.

** Jack Lalanne said "Eat right, think right, and exercise. Thoughts are things. Negative thoughts can make you sick just as much as poor nutrition and not exercising."

I heard it takes only two years of school to become an actual Nurse in some states. I think some other two year degree health programs like X-ray technican.

My suggestion is get a two year degree and get a job and go back to school if needed to advance.

Why are you right wing tea baggers so angry all the time? Can you get along with any group? Oh, and I believe there is a higher percentage of tea baggers on welfare then average. How do you spell hypocrites? Let the hate go!

Also, you can google this but a vast majority of viagra users are people of your political ilk. There have been previous threads on this.

So: angry, right wing conservatives, tea baggers, on welfare, need viagra to get it up - doesn't sound like a lot of fun, as a matter of fact it sounds like no fun.

I'll take being a happy, carefree, successful independent, democrat or liberal or whatever you want to call me without all the hang-ups.