"The people who have a slower metabolism who are fat are just slobs who don't have any self control."
-- You can infer that, but that's not at all what I said. That's a judgment, and that's your personal statement, not mine.
"So it's a mix, and you shouldn't paint all fat people with one brush."
-- I don't.
To say that people make certain lifestyle choices that determine weight (to a certain degree) is indesputable.
To say people who are fat are "lazy" is overly-simplistic, so I don't say that, nor do I believe it. I would not call the single mom I know (who works full-time and then takes care of 3 kids) "lazy" simply because she never exercises.
I have read about hunger mechanisms that are pre-determined, so that definitely accounts for differences in weight as does metabolism.
But, looking at the big picture and rising obesity rates, it is hard to argue that that is all genetics.
We have evolved into a more sedentary society, where most of us work desk jobs with few physical requirements. No one works a 40 hour week anymore, so it is easy to feel drained and to come home from work with other obligations (family, childcare, etc) that make exercise impractical and/or very challenging.
Poor people have the highest obesity rates, and, at least in part, this might be because it is harder for them to eat healthy. As an example, there are parts of the country where people do not have access to vegetables, but do have fast-food nearby, and without a car or mass-transit, people can go into adulthood never having tasted a vegetable. Vegetables are generally nutrient dense and low-calorie, so eating adequate vegetables (not in french fry form) can help prevent weight gain.
Point being, certain lifestyles lead to or exacerbate obesity. And, that is not blaming individuals, but it is stating a reality. I also do not blame our country's rising obesity rates on genetics and faulty hunger mechanisms. Do you?