Sounds like an easy question but once you had it and lose it, it kinda sucks. Sorta like flying first class once then having to back to coach, you now know what you are missing. You almost wish you never knew.
Sounds like an easy question but once you had it and lose it, it kinda sucks. Sorta like flying first class once then having to back to coach, you now know what you are missing. You almost wish you never knew.
People tend to gravitate to what they have lived/known. So, I suspect the majority of posters here will select "never was".
Definitely a has been. Then I would feel like all my training was worth it at some point.
I was very athletic. However, due to self esteem issues due in large part to a ver ally and physically abusive father, I never put them to much use.
I can say that being a never was absolutely sucks.
Loser Duck wrote:
I was very athletic. However, due to self esteem issues due in large part to a ver ally and physically abusive father, I never put them to much use.
I can say that being a never was absolutely sucks.
Just curious, how old are you?
Loser Duck wrote:
I was very athletic. However, due to self esteem issues due in large part to a ver ally and physically abusive father, I never put them to much use.
I can say that being a never was absolutely sucks.
Jesus H.
Listen, i'm all about getting therapy for issues and a less-than-ideal childhood, but this is no place for it. Talk to a counselor. You realize that by posting under the byline "Loser Duck", you haven't ensured your anonymity, you've just cast a pall over all current and former Ducks (and their parents)
Loser Duck wrote:
I was very athletic. However, due to self esteem issues due in large part to a ver ally and physically abusive father, I never put them to much use.
I can say that being a never was absolutely sucks.
Excuses.
There are recent winners of world marathon majors who had NO parents.
Most people are has-beens in their own minds but never-was'es in reality.
softee wrote:
Excuses.
There are recent winners of world marathon majors who had NO parents.
Judge much?
Sometimes, having a crappy parent is worse than having no parents. How would you know unless you walked in his shoes?
Loser Duck wrote:
I was very athletic. However, due to self esteem issues due in large part to a ver ally and physically abusive father, I never put them to much use.
I can say that being a never was absolutely sucks.
I think it had more to do with blaming everyone but yourself for your short-comings and never having any accountability in your life.
Being a has been just puts you back with the losers you tried to separate yourself from.
When I was a senior in h.s. my cousin, a senior in college, was long-jumping 24'-11 3/4" and improving weekly when an accident paralyzed him from the waist down. It hit me that had I been in his place, it would have driven me crazy not to have found out how good I could have become. So that was the focus of my running career. We each have perhaps a dozen years,give or take, of athletic prime, after which we inevitably lose it at varying rates.
And inevitably, for each of us, it is ALL gone. That is the human condition. What matters is what you do with what you have, while you have it.
A rough paraphrase of a poem whose origin escapes me for the moment (at best): Of all the words uttered by men, these are the saddest: It might have been.
welcometothethunderdome wrote:
I think it had more to do with blaming everyone but yourself for your short-comings and never having any accountability in your life.
Yeah. Abuse does nothing. People who were abused should just toughen the f*** up and quit playing victim.
Have we really gotten to the point where there can be people with no parents? Gosh, science is AWESOME!
an old Porsche still goes faster than a Ford
of course it causes issues wrote:
welcometothethunderdome wrote:I think it had more to do with blaming everyone but yourself for your short-comings and never having any accountability in your life.
Yeah. Abuse does nothing. People who were abused should just toughen the f*** up and quit playing victim.
Especially ones who are fully aware of the situation and can do something about it.
'Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
if you ever took the sport seriously, the answer is easy: has-been!
Yeah, and after my speech tonight, I starting to get that has-been feeling coming on.
DocLove wrote:
an old Porsche still goes faster than a Ford
Depends on whether that Porsche has an aftermarket rebuilt engine due to too many miles.
Everyone that has been great at something with an expiration date - i.e. athletics - will one day be a has been. So if you're a has been, you're in good company. Can't say the same about the "never was" crowd.