I saw that the thread I created yesterday was deleted. Please don't delete this one moderators, this is a real situation and my roommate did come out of the closet leaving me feeling a bit uncomfortable. I don't want to confide in people I know because this is an uncomfortable topic for me, which is why I'm posting it here... the beauty of an internet messageboard. I hope I get over this soon.
I've had a couple gay roommates and you know what? They weren't my type and I wasn't theirs. No conflict of interest no issue. Be straight with the guy (no pun intended). Ask him if there is any reason for you to feel uncomfortable. If he tells you there is nothing there then get over yourself and move on with your life.
your thoughts.....? wrote:
I hope I get over this soon.
Way to make him coming out somehow about you. He's the one dealing with a huge lifestyle change and you're worried about your feelings.
Why are you feeling uncomfortable? Are you worried that he will hit on you? Do you sympathize with what he's going through, but don't know how to articulate this to him? Unless you are gay, or give off a vibe that you could be gay, he's not going to be into you. News flash: gay men like other gay men. They aren't going to hit on straight men. Your roommate is probably feeling incredibly vulnerable right now, and the last thing he needs is for you to bring your own insecurities to the mix.
I understand your concern. My college roommate came out of the closet and soon thereafter expressed she had feelings for me. She and a few of her friends made a pass at me [late] one night and that was the end of that. I had her kicked out of college and lived roommate free for the entire year. It was glorious!
Good luck!
I would think that your friend is going to pick up on your feelings. It would be best to have a conversation and share your "concerns." Don't make assumptions and don't force him to make assumptions about you.
Good luck.
Direct him to this brave lady who helps people with his mental illness:
If you wake up one night and your penis is in his mouth I would probably ask for a new roomate.
why discomfort? wrote:
News flash: gay men like other gay men. They aren't going to hit on straight men.
Yeah, that would never happen...
your thoughts.....? wrote:
I saw that the thread I created yesterday was deleted. Please don't delete this one moderators, this is a real situation and my roommate did come out of the closet leaving me feeling a bit uncomfortable. I don't want to confide in people I know because this is an uncomfortable topic for me, which is why I'm posting it here... the beauty of an internet messageboard. I hope I get over this soon.
I can understand your dilemma. Especially if he came out by hitting on you. If he just came out publicly, in general, then you might have people making comments about you. If you get out of the roommate situation, then you guys just had a lovers' spat.
Dude, you are in a lose-lose situation. I suggest you move to another state ASAP.
Gotta be a troll post, nobody would make a personal thread like this twice.
FYI OP claimed she was female.
why discomfort? wrote:
Why are you feeling uncomfortable? Are you worried that he will hit on you? Do you sympathize with what he's going through, but don't know how to articulate this to him? Unless you are gay, or give off a vibe that you could be gay, he's not going to be into you. News flash: gay men like other gay men. They aren't going to hit on straight men. Your roommate is probably feeling incredibly vulnerable right now, and the last thing he needs is for you to bring your own insecurities to the mix.
Um, OP is not a dude, dude.
Well I had a day to ponder over things. I still don't know what to think. I didn't talk to my roommate much today (we weren't in the same room a lot) and when we were I was studying/we didn't really speak but that is standard most days, nothing new.
The thing is every time I think of my roommate I think of this now... and I've been thinking of it all day and I still feel a bit uncomfortable.
What exactly makes you uncomfortable? Describe the discomfort.
My question is, why do the moderators automatically delete threads about homosexuality (just to name one theme)? I've seen this happen before, and I just think it's f.ucked up considering the other incendiary shit that is allowed to remain up on the boards. This isn't a pet issue for me, but it's irritating to see censorship take place so casually.
Really, who is responsible? Is it Wejo?
Wejo, you seemed like a smart, decent guy when we met in person, so I ask you, seriously, either delete ALL threads that are potentially offensive/controversial (and not running related), or leave them all alone.
Am I crazy? Why does the management of these boards have to be so flagrantly sneaky and political? I can't believe that there is a grown man sitting at his comp running LR and just deleting threads that he doesn't like.
also, sorry to hijack thread, should've started another.
Rolls eyes wrote:
why discomfort? wrote:News flash: gay men like other gay men. They aren't going to hit on straight men.
Yeah, that would never happen...
I know from personal experience that it does. When I was traveling through San Francisco a dude at a rest stop offered me a b*******.
That being said, I don't think I'd mind rooming with a gay dude. I know I wouldn't mind rooming with a chick that I wasn't sleeping with - don't think it would be that much different.
It just randomly comes onto my mind. I think of my roommate and immediately think about how they came out of the closet and... I can't describe it, it just feels weird to me. It was on my mind for most of the day. I suppose I've never been put in a situation like this and haven't had much contact with homosexuals before (have some acquaintances but that is it, and all are male). I try to tell myself things are just the same as before and act the same way, but at the back of my mind, this new information is still there..
Have sex with him, get the tension over with.
Walk around the house with a butt plug. He'll get the hint.