Well is it?
Well is it?
Yepp
as real as running addiction.
Addiction in general is a very complex term. Professionals in biology, psychology, the law, etc. are still struggling to understand and define it, you're not likely to settle on a concrete answer here.
Anything that you do that has a negative impact on your life yet you continue to do because you are powerless to stop is an addiction. You can test if your powerless by making a decision to stop what you're doing. If you end up going back to it (though you swore you wouldn't!) you're probably powerless.
That being said. Sex has many different forms and negatively impacts my life when I'm selfish with it (ie I spend my energy when I'm alone instead of with my woman). I have an addiction because over and over again I try to stop but I can't. I have little successes here and there but I always relapse.
I would go to SA but I just don't think my problem fits with child molesters and rapists.
pl wrote:
Anything that you do that has a negative impact on your life yet you continue to do because you are powerless to stop is an addiction. You can test if your powerless by making a decision to stop what you're doing. If you end up going back to it (though you swore you wouldn't!) you're probably powerless.
That being said. Sex has many different forms and negatively impacts my life when I'm selfish with it (ie I spend my energy when I'm alone instead of with my woman). I have an addiction because over and over again I try to stop but I can't. I have little successes here and there but I always relapse.
I would go to SA but I just don't think my problem fits with child molesters and rapists.
You are pathetic.
Therapy is for quitters, and I ain't no quitter.
judge and jury wrote:
[quote]You are pathetic.
Please indulge me why.
pl wrote:
Anything that you do that has a negative impact on your life yet you continue to do because you are powerless to stop is an addiction. You can test if your powerless by making a decision to stop what you're doing. If you end up going back to it (though you swore you wouldn't!) you're probably powerless.
That being said. Sex has many different forms and negatively impacts my life when I'm selfish with it (ie I spend my energy when I'm alone instead of with my woman). I have an addiction because over and over again I try to stop but I can't. I have little successes here and there but I always relapse.
I would go to SA but I just don't think my problem fits with child molesters and rapists.
1) Your description of what an addiction is is accurate. If you follow that description then anything can be an addiction...you could be addicted to eating carrots, and I know someone who was...his skin actually turned orange...he had to curtail his carrot eating.
2) If YOUR life is negatively affected in a way that you really don't like, then you should go to SA. It is not just for criminals, and people do get help with it.
The AA definition of alchohalism is something like
-I have had good reason to not drink and drank anyway.
-I have wanted to and tried to stop but failed.
with the disclaimer that there is no definition that fits all people and the only way to be diagnosed is to diagnose yourself.
I imagine this applies to other additions as well.
So what's your diagnosis?
I usually think that addiction is something that has a physical withdrawl, like heroin, meth, or alcohol.
Something like "sex addiction" internet "addiction" running "addiction", those are more of what I'd call a compulsion. Something you want to do and will do, but if strapped to a chair you wouldn't suffer DTs, black out, nausea, etc..
The first time I had heard of sex addiction was when I was in college and watching ESPN as a big Red Sox fan watching a press conference with Wade Boggs and him trying to explain his affair with some groupie by saying he was addicted to sex....well as a 20 year old in college whose main goal was to get drunk and laid, my roommate and I looked at each other and said "aw, hes addicted to sex, poor guy...how unusual" and laughed about it....
Now as an adult who is dealing with a wife who wont give b******s and resorting to craigslist to buy the occasional BJ......I can see the issue.
EZ10Miler wrote:
I usually think that addiction is something that has a physical withdrawl, like heroin, meth, or alcohol.
Something like "sex addiction" internet "addiction" running "addiction", those are more of what I'd call a compulsion. Something you want to do and will do, but if strapped to a chair you wouldn't suffer DTs, black out, nausea, etc..
I get where you are going, but I don't think there is nearly as clear a line as you would like to draw. Something like running or sex causes real physiological changes and feedback loops in brain chemistry, etc. Withdraw of that pleasurable sensation will indeed cause physical withdraw symptoms. Maybe those are not as serious as withdraw from the drugs you have listed (I don't know of anybody having seizures from not running) but there is a physical withdraw effect.
Rehab is for quitters.Therapy is for weaklings.
Ninetonite wrote:
Therapy is for quitters, and I ain't no quitter.
Just because you are in college (collleeggee yeeeaaaah) doesn't mean you can't be addicted to sex. Contrary to popular belief, it ISN'T normal to go out weekly/daily to find someone to have a one-night-stand with. Media promotes this type of unruly behavior and people are getting their lives screwed up because of it. Probably 75% of all men have a sex addiction to some extent. Don't believe me? Next time you are looking at porn when you could be having sex with your wife, ask yourself why. "It's my hobby" isn't an acceptable answer.
Do most married men look at porn?
EZ10Miler wrote:
I usually think that addiction is something that has a physical withdrawl, like heroin, meth, or alcohol.
Something like "sex addiction" internet "addiction" running "addiction", those are more of what I'd call a compulsion. Something you want to do and will do, but if strapped to a chair you wouldn't suffer DTs, black out, nausea, etc..
Addictions can be psychological as well as physical. A psychological addiction is usually in response to some emotional damage the person has experienced. When a person tries to stop the addictive behavior without addressing the emotional issue underlying it, he/she will indeed experience withdrawal.
The vast majority of sex addicts are dealing with some kind of emotional trauma, though they may not be aware of it.
Yes it is.
I really enjoy anal sex, when I'm behind a girl of course!
No. The mental health establishment makes things up and pathologizes everything in order to support more diagnoses of mental illness.