Why or why not?
Why or why not?
I actually do this pretty frequently although I usually regret it. This is something I'm working on for the new year!!!
No. I don't want to be the parent of "that kid" who's dropping swears in 2nd grade.
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Why or why not?
No way. I'm not one to cuss much anyway, but I really tone it down in front of the kids. The reason is that kids should see the very best role models they can so they know what to shoot for. Using swear words has its place...smash your thumb with a hammer, when having a discussion with a fine gentleman who is trying to assault you...then you pull out the swearing. Other than those times or something very similar, using swear words shows a small brain...come up with something else to say.
No, at least I try not to... Cussing in front of your kids is scuzzy, in my opinion.
F*** yeah! They're just words, get over it.
I try not too, again to be a good role model to our son and provide an environment where such words aren't the norm. My dad swore moderately, but not embarrassingly so. (Dad was a take-the-Lord's-name-in-vain type, instead of relying on body or procreative functions.)
Older neighborhood kids is where I learned those things, for better or worst. If I used those words, my parents usually called me on it, esp. when I was younger and/or the word was one of the worst ones.
However, American society has become so crass and vulgar that stuff our son gets is more widespread and frequent than I'd like. Luckily he knows not to use them, but he sadly knows the power of them.
An anecdote: As a gift, our family received kits to make your child's hand prints from 1st through 5th birthdays. For the 2nd birthday, my wife was getting agitated because our son wasn't cooperating and the print wasn't turning out. In frustration, she muttered, "Dammit, (son's name)!" Our son then started sprinkling in "demmit" into his talking at random times for about two months afterward.
I use every word in the book. Unfortunately I once yelled cunt at another driver and my daughter asked my wife what it meant. I try not to use that in front of my kids or wife and reserve it for special circumstances (road rage female driver, etc).
My kids crack up when I swear, which is quite frequently. Fuck is my favorite word and is used quite frequently.
BTW, all my kids are straight A honor roll students and have never been in trouble in school.
Ever been near teenagers in the mall? They all swear. There is no mystique around the words, they are just words.
The more the word is forbidden, the more the kids will want to say it around their friends.
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I use every word in the book. Unfortunately I once yelled cunt at another driver and my daughter asked my wife what it meant. I try not to use that in front of my kids or wife and reserve it for special circumstances (road rage female driver, etc).
My kids crack up when I swear, which is quite frequently. Fuck is my favorite word and is used quite frequently.
BTW, all my kids are straight A honor roll students and have never been in trouble in school.
Ever been near teenagers in the mall? They all swear. There is no mystique around the words, they are just words.
The more the word is forbidden, the more the kids will want to say it around their friends.
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What "power" do curse words have? If I drop something on my foot and say "F***, that hurts" why does that matter? I understand you should never say the N word to a black person or shouldn't take the lords name in vain if youre a religous person but other than that? They're fun to say.
No way I tell them to go to their fvcking beds.
Ahah, just kidding I don't have kids.
I don't have kids, but I do interact regularly with children in my family. I don't swear a lot in general, but I don't really censor myself for children. It's normal for people to use swear words on occasion when the situation warrants it. There's no reason that kids need to be led to believe otherwise.
As for the fear that swearing around a kid will result in your child will be "that kid who drops swears in 2nd grade," I can certainly understand this point, but I think that a kid should be taught that different behaviors are acceptable at different ages. My niece knows that she is not allowed to swear even though she hears the occasional profanity just as she knows that she is not allowed to have a glass of Pinot Noir with dinner even though the adults are drinking wine.
If anything, I think that making swearing taboo makes it more attractive for kids. The entire joy of swearing when you are a young child is that you expect it to shock people. If swearing is not big deal, it's not fun to do.
haha YO wrote:
F*** yeah! They're just words, get over it.
You have kids?
really wrote:
You have kids?
F*** yeah! Two little chitlins bout 3 years ol.
haha YO wrote:
really wrote:You have kids?
F*** yeah! Two little chitlins bout 3 years ol.
Wasn't it just yesterday you were hoping to die soon? Seems a shame to abandon the little ones. Think of all the swear words they'll miss out on.
Re: power of swear words--
at least when you're young, you learned (maybe some didn't?) those words can induce strong reactions. A child realizes this is something in his/her control. Agreed the power is lessened or non-existent if there is no reaction.
And, in general, think of the power of words: saying "You're mean, Mommy!" vs. "*&^& you, %itch!", "death panel" vs. counseling on end-of-life options, or energy resources facility vs. oil refinery.[quote]
Ralphie as Adult: [narrating] "In the heat of battle my father wove a tapestry of obscenities that as far as we know is still hanging in space over Lake Michigan."
Ralphie loved him some Ivory soap.
Only in times of duress.
Just last night I was getting my darling little girl into her PJ's and she kicked me square in the nuts. When my wife asks what happen I remarked, "She kicked me in the..." about this time both my boys were staring at me, intently, relishing what was sure to come next, "...cajones."
They looked disappointed and said, "Dad, don't speak Spanish just to try and keep us from knowing what you're saying."
only before I hit them. This way they associate swearing with pain and they won't swear.
I do not understand why this expression "F*** You" is meant as a cuss. Why would you say "I want to procreate with you!" as something awful?