When/if to start letting her pay for dates?

YOU HAVE A KEEPER.

Yes, let her pay for a date. Then maybe start splitting up costs evenly, or taking turns paying.

It is nice that you are showing that you can be a "provider" or whatever, but considering that you two are currently of the same status (students), there is no reason to not share expenses.

P.Whelan wrote:

YOU HAVE A KEEPER.

^^This!!!!

Let her pay man! The fact she offered is a good thing.

someone else wrote:

I've been dating this girl for about a month and we've gone on a few dates, but we've had a bit of a hold-up lately because we've been on break from school.

Anyway, she wants to pay for the next date. Until now, I've been paying for everything. Is it okay to start let her paying, or should I at least offer to pay my share?

Let her pay if she has offered. Go somewhere fun, but don't break the bank. Still be a gentleman and pay for the incidentals such as tipping the valet, etc.

Go to a movie and let her buy the tickets but pick up the food. Show her that you are cool with sharing costs. Don't act like it is a big deal.

If you are paying for dates then you are paying for sex, (or the future expectation of sex). What does that make your girlfriend?

Don't want to believe it? Do you insist on paying for everything when hanging out with your guy friends? Case closed.

Start sharing expenses equally and stop being an idiot.

You're welcome.

Win

Double Win.

If chicks can vote they can damn well pick up the tab on a date from time to time!

The New Uncle B wrote:

Usually after the first kid.

After the 1st shag makes more sense

Deal with women and money the same way you would deal with your guy friends and money. You offer to treat, frequently, because you like the person whose company you hold, and enjoy doing nice things for others. If they accept, great. If they want to split, that's great too. And, sometimes, they will get the bill first, or demand to grab the bill after you offer. Those three occurrences should happen equally often, and as they say, "it all comes out in the wash."

what in the world wrote:

If you are paying for dates then you are paying for sex, (or the future expectation of sex). What does that make your girlfriend?

Don't want to believe it? Do you insist on paying for everything when hanging out with your guy friends? Case closed.

Start sharing expenses equally and stop being an idiot.

You're welcome.

Very enlightening. I will consider.

don't let her pay the full thing you clown, you paying for the first few dates is seen as your gift to her, her now paying for the full thing would be her paying a gift to you... u'd seen like more of a gentleman if you just split it from now on, aside from still paying for thigns now and then as a treat ... beside what you think, some guys on letsrun do get girls and hot ones at that, and know what theyre talking about

forgot to add... that you do in fact have a keeper if shes offering

Let her pay! As a woman I feel awkward if someone I like and have been dating insists on paying. Makes me feel like we're not equals.

a woman says. . . wrote:

Let her pay! As a woman I feel awkward if someone I like and have been dating insists on paying. Makes me feel like we're not equals.

thus proving my point, just tell the girl, look i paid for the first two or w/e as a gift, lets split it from here on in

a woman says. . . wrote:

Let her pay! As a woman I feel awkward if someone I like and have been dating insists on paying. Makes me feel like we're not equals.

This was my thought. Offering to pay is gentlemanly. Demanding to pay for everything all the time even when the girl asks to pay is patronizing.

Letsrun guys are recommending him to let her pay and then on another thread complaining about the post-nuptial shut off. If she wanted to split the bill she would go out with a girlfriend. She is going out with you because she wants to date a man...act like one.

Of course she is going to offer to pay because she is probably a sweet girl, tell her thanks but no thanks.

A Girl wrote:

Letsrun guys are recommending him to let her pay and then on another thread complaining about the post-nuptial shut off. If she wanted to split the bill she would go out with a girlfriend. She is going out with you because she wants to date a man...act like one.

Of course she is going to offer to pay because she is probably a sweet girl, tell her thanks but no thanks.

Hey, you do whatever you want, but I didn't go to school and get myself educated so I could be some dude's b*tch! I always go Dutch as a matter of principle. We're partners and equals or we're nothing!

A Girl wrote:

Letsrun guys are recommending him to let her pay and then on another thread complaining about the post-nuptial shut off. If she wanted to split the bill she would go out with a girlfriend. She is going out with you because she wants to date a man...act like one.

Of course she is going to offer to pay because she is probably a sweet girl, tell her thanks but no thanks.

I think the consensus here is that I should let her pay. I don't know what post-nuptial shutoff has to do with it.

Usually when I go out somewhere (say the movies) with a young lady if she wants to pay for her ticket I let her. I don't insist on paying, I just pay for something else like the drinks and popcorn.