Only the wisdom of Letsrun can help me figure this beast out. I have two brothers, both standing up at my wedding (yes, I read the post-nuptial shut-off thread. Single tear). Both are awesome, so who do I choose as the best man? Do I do dual best men and just have them plan all the crap together, since they're probably doing that anyway? Do I coin toss it? Anyone that can relate?
Have them race a mile.
talk to them. 2 is the best man for 1, 3 is the best man for 2, 1 is the best man for 3.
Either do the dual best men thing or choose a completely different person (a best friend).
I have a best friend that I wanted to be my best man. But I also wanted my only brother to be my best man. So I chose my brother to be best man and I asked my friend to officiate the wedding. It turned out very nicely.
midwesta wrote:
Only the wisdom of Letsrun can help me figure this beast out. I have two brothers, both standing up at my wedding (yes, I read the post-nuptial shut-off thread. Single tear). Both are awesome, so who do I choose as the best man? Do I do dual best men and just have them plan all the crap together, since they're probably doing that anyway? Do I coin toss it? Anyone that can relate?
It's a silly designation. Have two "best men". Put them in order of height or age or alphabetically and explain this all in detail in the Order of Service that everyone gets.
If they are both awesome as you say, they really won't give a crap which one you choose.
Neither. Choose a really good friend and have your brothers in the wedding.
I had the same issue when I got married - two brothers, both of whom I wanted to be in the wedding. Choosing one as Best Man just didn't feel right to me. My wife and I agreed not to name a "Best Man" or "Maid of Honor" and we instead had 3 groomsmen (my two brothers and my best friend) and she had three bridesmaids. No distinction for "Best" or "Honor". It went just fine.
I have five brothers. They were all groomsmen, and I listed them all as 'best men.' The one I'm closest to stood next to me (had the rings, etc.) and another gave the speech. In my opinion, listing them bost as best men is clearly the best decision.
Just have groomsmen
Yeah bro call them both your best man there is no rule book on this. Just tell them they can fight it out for who hands you the ring.
let your wife choose for you,
that will
1. get you off the hook of blame with yur bros
2. get you started on a lifelong path to what they call "happy marriage"
or ideally, your wife says no she won't choose that it is your call (that means a better marriage chance for you ), then have both your bros be the 'men of honor"