Having sex with you would all but guarantee a plummet in a woman's hotness factor
Having sex with you would all but guarantee a plummet in a woman's hotness factor
answer: take a look at her Mom.
Willie beat me to it. If mom has gone to seed at 40, daughter will probably too.
Also look at her vices. Drinking especially will destroy looks. Maybe smoking too--not sure about that one. If she eats junk food she may be trim at 20 but at 40 will need an armless office chair to avoid getting her ass stuck in the chair.
Look at her mom. Make sure the girl likes to lift weights. And go for girls who are eight or more years younger than you.
Does she frequently go tanning?
-if so, she will look like a worn out piece of leather.
Does she frequently drink?
-if so, she will have yellowish skin, red eyes constantly, and wrinkly skin.
Does she smoke at all?
-if so, this should be a huge turnoff anyway... but the results are self-explanatory. You know the effects.
Does she have cellulite on her legs?
-Cellulite will start to spread throughout the rest of her body...especially if she has a baby.
Other things to be wary of...
-fat fingers/toes/hands/feet
-thick ankles
-thin hair (her hair will start to diminish and eventually, she'll be bald)
-facial hair
-bad hygiene
-yellow teeth (if she already has yellow teeth, wait till she starts drinking coffee every morning...)
As for the baby question... If she exercises regularly and consistently now, she should be ok after pregnancy. She will look fine if she exercises throughout the pregnancy as well. It just might take a few more situps than it did before to tone her abs again.
I can't find you the link because I'm on my sister's computer but google before pregnancy and after pictures of breasts and you will see. There is one particular set of images from a positive body image site which are useful to consider. I was shocked, SHOCKED!, when I first saw how breasts change.
As others have said, look at the mom for genetics, consider her habits etc. To be safe wait until she is 32 or 33 before committing because girls bodies change a lot between 30 and 32.
easy wrote:
I can't find you the link because I'm on my sister's computer but google before pregnancy and after pictures of breasts and you will see. There is one particular set of images from a positive body image site which are useful to consider. I was shocked, SHOCKED!, when I first saw how breasts change.
32.
^^^ true.
easy wrote:
... To be safe wait until she is 32 or 33 before committing because girls bodies change a lot between 30 and 32.
This made me laugh out loud. Maybe all the women you know ramp up their smoking and boozing during that two year age range...?
Don't be silly. If you want a woman whose looks will last, find one who is fit, has active hobbies, eats healthy food, wears a minimal amount of make-up, gets enough sleep on a regular basis, isn't interested in having more than two kids and flosses nightly.
Outside of the thick ankles, these are the best predictors that a woman will maintain her appearance over the years.
Or just marry an 18-year-old and hope you kick the bucket before she hits 33.
and another thing. If she's 22 and a smoker she may be super hot now, but if she decides to quit smoking she will blow up like a swiss workout ball. Virtually guaranteed, unless maybe she takes up marathoning after quitting smoking.
BTW I am far from one of these anti-smoking nazis, but I've seen it happen. I had a friend who married a super hot girl, an ex-stripper. She quit smoking and literally more-than-doubled her weight.
This thread should when an award for "most superficial thread of all time."
Guess what? People age. Why not pick an attractive, active girl with a great personality, so when she's no longer a perfect 10 she can at least carry on an intelligent conversation?
I can think of a particular 38 year old woman who is drop-dead gorgeous, active (exercises for hours a day), but has absolutely no personality. She has never worked before. She has 3 school-aged kids, except she acts like she does not give a shit about her kids. When I see them with her at races, she always seems annoyed that they are there, as they steal attention from her. (They are truly adorable kids, however.) This woman is much more interested in posting skimpy pictures of herself on facebook, fishing for compliments, and bragging about her running exploits ("I just ran 200M repeats at 4:40 pace"...) than being an an involved mother, participating in the community, or having diverse interests. This, to me, is sad! I don't see how this level of superficiality would be appealing to any man other than an equally vain and superficial type seeking a trophy wife.
I would like to think I am fairly attractive, staying fit is important to me, but I also see this as only a piece of the puzzle.
As a female, I seek attractive men and would like to pick one who would age well. However, having dated/slept with a few of what I would consider to be drop-dead gorgeous types of men (including some former body-builders), usually their great physiques and apparent charm are just compensating for deficient personalities. The amount of effort that goes toward maintaining a "perfect" body often keeps them from focusing on anything else. That's fine for a one-night stand, but for a lasting relationship, no thanks!
So, if you are SO concerned with appearances that you do not want to commit to someone for fear that they will lose hotness as they age, there are a few solutions. 1) Date way below your age range. Date only 20-somethings your entire life or 2) start a savings fund so your partner can have all the surgeries/work done to keep her "hot" at whatever age.
Otherwise known as the Mom Test.If the mom has good body tone and minimal wrinkling then likely the daughter will inherit those traits.
Groundskeeper Willie wrote:
answer: take a look at her Mom.
As others have said...Look At Her Mom. We are all blessed/cursed with certain genetic factors and have to work with the hand we are dealt in the appearance department. Having said that, so many things that can flush hotness right down the crapper are related to lifestyle, and a woman's mother can be a big influence on how she takes care of herself. If the mother has taken care of herself through healthy diet, exercise, and good hygiene, dental, and skin care; chances are she has taught her daughter the same thing.
East-Asian genes are a plus. A pleasant personality tends to age physically better, as they are less stressed overall (men too).
Look at her mom, so true. My wife is in her early 50s and she's still hot. She runs, lifts weights, eats a healthy diet, only a light drinker, and generally takes care of herself. I met her 20 years ago and when things started to get serious we went to meet the family. Her mom is a beautiful woman and I knew that I had a winner.
1) Date way below your age range.
This is an excellent idea too. My GF is 17 years younger than me and it has worked out great so far.
I think it was the Nation of Islam that came up with a rule of thumb that a wife should be exactly 1/2+7 the age of the man. So if you're 30, 22 is her ideal age. 40-27, and so on.
Groundskeeper Willie wrote:
answer: take a look at her Mom.
Not universal by any means, but a good rule of thumb. Women aware of this rule tend to buck to trend.
I'm just sayin' wrote:
*long post about how people who care about appearances are shallow*
Just because appearances are a consideration doesn't mean they're the only consideration. Nobody in this thread has suggested a metric that should be the only one used in choosing a potential spouse.
gooey! wrote:
It just might take a few more situps than it did before to tone her abs again.
Most of this post seems like serious bro-science, but this one in particular annoys me. You can add muscle in specific spots. You cannot eliminate fat in specific spots. Spot reduction is a myth.
Groundskeeper Willie wrote:
answer: take a look at her Mom.
This is definitely the answer. Especially with runner girls, because they sometimes focus so much on training and fitness while they are in college, that you really have no idea what they will look like outside of the sport until you see a pic of mom. Much better indicator of how she will look when she is done running.
After reading this thread i think I got a catch. She doesn't drink or smoke, and thinks coffee is nasty. She doesn't play any sports (used to be a pole vaulter) anymore but still Jogs 3-5 miles everyday. The only bad thing is her mom, she is aging and a little overweight.
Look at your dad and decide whether you will look like him or not. At 45 I look like my dad did at the same age. The bid difference is I always worked out, he did not. Being about 30 pounds lighter, and eating healthier, does make a difference. I look young at the same age than my dad.
Yes, check out her Mom then check her ankles. Fat ankles, fat chick. Learned that from an older guy.
Someone said a smoker no, but why would a runner be with a smoker?