Our relationship is great and we get along. But only have sex once/twice every two weeks...not enough for me. If I bring this up and demand sex, would it be wrong?
Our relationship is great and we get along. But only have sex once/twice every two weeks...not enough for me. If I bring this up and demand sex, would it be wrong?
How about offering a really good massage and then do a good job not just a 2 minute deal. That always puts me in the mood.
if I have to jump through a bunch of hoops just to get her "in the mood" I'm not interested. I want to f*** a girl who wants to f***. not interested in charity sex.
Yes. it is. Check out savage love. Writes about this frequently.
A relationship should be a give and take. You probably do things for her that you aren't crazy about. She should do things for you that she isn't crazy about.
Either way. Probably a good thing to talk to her about. Like 2 years ago.
Yea.... I can tell your a real champ in the bed.
Mind Runner, I haven't seen you so demonstrative before. I kind of like it ....
men shouldn't be forced to work for sex. You enter a marriage, you should have enough sex for the other to be satisfied. It doesn't hurt the girl to do it, but it does hurt the guy not to do it.
Mind Runner wrote:
How about offering a really good massage and then do a good job not just a 2 minute deal. That always puts me in the mood.
Eh, I usually change my name.
I like it even more now .... ;-)
I'm thinking of a word that rymes with cape
Escape? You think running from his wife would be the solution? I think they should stick this out & talk it through.
Look, I never said a guy had to work to get sex. But ya'll need to also be considerate of the lady, too. Why is it too hard to rub your girl's back or feet or help out with dishes or put the kids to bed so she can soak in the tub for a while? You only want sympathy sex? Believe me, it does not take too long to get me in the mood if I feel like my husband has made a connection with me emotionally and at least acts like he cares about making me feel good, too.
second the savage love shout out, thought of it when I read the thread title. in a healthy relationship, she should have sex because it would make you happy, as long as you make her happy in turn. if nothing changes after a talk, the marriage will probably not work out, not because of sex, but because the sex question is indicative of a larger trend of not valuing the partners happiness.
When you get married you take vows to be monogamous, not celibate. If your wife isn't interested in sex you should talk to her and find out why, AND let her know that it is not OK for you to only have sex once every two weeks. If you are going to 'demand' anything it should be that she recognize that this is not what you signed up for and that it's important to the health of your marriage that something changes.
tom spanks wrote:
Our relationship is great and we get along. But only have sex once/twice every two weeks...not enough for me. If I bring this up and demand sex, would it be wrong?
Unfortunately, if you examine most long-term marriages, the frequency only gets worse along with the quality. It typically gets to a point where the sex stops completely or a frequency of 1x/year.
Coming to LR and complaining about you sex life will surely help.
Unfortunately, she is already very much in charge here. You can ask for it or demand it, but it is only happening on her terms, so think about how you go about it.
I am not saying you can't come up with some rules around getting a "quickie" or something, but you better figure out what you are willing to give her in return. Try this for a weekly plan:
1 date night, say Friday night
1 mid-week after dinner
1 quickie on the weekends
Q. How do you stop your girlfriend sucking your cock?
A. Marry her.
Hope this helps.
She's a woman, she will not want you until she thinks someone else does. Use her competitive nature to your advantage. If that does not work, caveman the bitch.
tom spanks wrote:
Our relationship is great and we get along. But only have sex once/twice every two weeks...not enough for me. If I bring this up and demand sex, would it be wrong?
Our relationship is great and we get along. But he wants to have sex all the time (i.e., 1-2 x/wk)... way too demanding for my hectic life (between work, household chores and the kids I hardly have time to think). If I bring this up and demand more emotional support and affection, would it be wrong?