At home for Christmas... feeling awkward like I don't belong

Drink heavily.

Won't comment on a lot, because it's natural to go through the stuff like you experienced today at your age.

One thing I do want to share with you: my Mom passed this year and I realized today things will never be the same. People said it would be rough, but I had no idea it would be like this.

You may feel different now, but take it from me man, treasure your grandparents and parents on days like today. You may have some petty differences with them, but one day you'll experience what I'm having now and you'll wish you let the small stuff go.

Or Run heavily.

advice: marry into a higher class where life is lived lavishly and uncorked expensive wine bottles are plenty.

that's what i did. used to hate christmas too, now i f***ing love it.

Runners should learn social skills

I am with my wife's family and feel the same way. None of these people run or spend time outside, or talk about anything I have any knowledge or interest in. It's rough for me, because I am reclusive and just want to run away. Can only run so much in a cold climate and with ice everywhere. I mean I had my 5 miler in by the time the kids had unwrapped presents.

get off the computer and talk to them? or if you are on your phone, get off the phone and talk to them.

Life is to short, engage in conversation. Talk, have fun. Dont spend the night with family feeling awkward

Ghost of Farve wrote:

Runners should learn social skills

Who's Farve?

What do you disagree with your parents on?

To the OP, yeah I can kind of relate. I figure it could be a lot worse though. There's lots of people & elderly who are sitting at home alone right now watching tv. Depressed.

Anyways I'm going home early tomorrow & blasting open the vodka. Man do I need a drink. I wish my family drank, it would make holidays so much easier.

I'm 24 and go to school 5 hours away, so I'm never home. I'm finishing my Masters up right now. I'm from a big family. grand parents had 4 kids.. Everyone of them has 2 kids.. and then the grandkids are having kids.

I was the only one there not in a couple.. All of my counsins are engaged or married.. or married and Prego.. Talk about them looking down on someone.. I treasure my family, but I feel like I don't belong unless I have a girlfriend with me. I'm not even sure if I want to subject a girl to my loud, obnoxious family.

So take my advice.. Drink a lot and don't plan on running the next day. Makes the night go by faster and you fall asleep quicker.

They all look at me dumb too.. I'm thinking about getting my phd out of state so maybe I won't have to come home for every holiday and only have to deal with it once a year instead of 4 or 5

most americans think runners are homo's, so that probably explains your situation.

also, be aware, that some ppl are spending their holidays in far away lands on deployments i.e. iraq & afghanistan. you ought to count your blessings.

Been there, done that.

This year I didnt go home. I loved my day. slept in, ate some good food, drank some wine, watched some movie.

Then went to the city and volunteered. Made me feel good.

Now, Im thinking about heading to the titty bar.

pretty much in the same boat

have come to hate the major holidays. i am the only one of "the family" that lives close to my dad (mom passed a few years ago).

He and I have very little to say to each other. we go to some shit hole for holiday lunch - sit there say pretty much nothing to each other and when we do it is the same stuff as the last holiday.

Christmas - Thanksgiving - Easter all mean nothing to me. They are for little kids and families and I have neither

Stories like this remind me why it feels great to be Hispanic... holidays are about family and enjoying that that is family - the arguments, the stories, the disappointments, the fights, the making up.

And my family is full of DI All-Conference/All-Americans, men and women, we're all past our glory days but it's fun bringing everyone together to share the war stories.

Sometimes a running family is tons of fun in the holidays, comparing PR's and who was better than whom.. makes for some good stories.

[quote]marista wrote:

And my family is full of DI All-Conference/All-Americans, men and women, we're all past our glory days but it's fun bringing everyone together to share the war stories.

Ahhhaha thats funny,

Yeah right. You mean D1 who can get from Tijuana or Ensanada to San Diego the fastest?

wish I fit in wrote:

I'm a young guy and have kind of grown away from my family the past few years, but especially this past year. I didn't go to my hometown for thanksgiving and felt I made the right choice, but I felt like I needed to come for Christmas. I've been around my family all day, and I just don't feel like I fit in at all

Anyone been there? I don't know what I'm looking for. Advice? Stories? Empathy?

Not to make you feel ordinary, but we've all been there, probably every one of us. I didn't want to come home for Xmas when I was 21 and the next year it was a little better, and the following year it was a little more tolerable, and pretty soon all that stuff you were concerned with just goes away -- or falls behind important stuff that comes up. Do what you have to do but be pleasant to your fam and keep in mind it isn't a permanent thing.

thetrueseeker wrote:

Ghost of Farve wrote:

Runners should learn social skills

Who's Farve?

BLASPEHMY!!! My name is already forgotten! I will make it snow even more to postpone the game farther. I dont care if it takes till March!! I shall play and everyone will love me again. FARVE IS VENGEFUL!!!!

Who's Farve?[/quote]

BLASPEHMY!!! My name is already forgotten! I will make it snow even more to postpone the game farther. I dont care if it takes till March!! I shall play and everyone will love me again. FARVE IS VENGEFUL!!!![/quote]

Dude. It's F-A-V-R-E. Idiots.