"I'm just giving you a hard time."

wtf man cmon wrote:

How does that phrase make up for harrasment, and giving someone a hard time? It doesn't. Why did I make this thread? Idk.

It doesn't. It's a dick's way of trying to get out of being a dick and seem like it was not really what you thought it was. Another variant I hate is, "I was just joking." These are slimy ways to say just about anything and then act as if you are retracting it. In the end, it's about escaping responsibility for hurtful behavior...and, if they can pull it off, making you the guilty party. I find that borderline personality disorder often is a common aspect to a lot of posters here:

Thanks for the reply. That's exactly how I feel about the situation.

This is a great topic, and that reply was spot on. I was a psych student once, interested in the "how and why" to simple questions like this and others. I try to laugh at this particular subject in the sense that, "Hey, asshole, why the hell do you think I enjoy a hard time? Maybe you can start garnishing my paycheck so I have less money to pay bills...or take away my car so I have to ride the bus or walk everywhere." I don't know, whatever. Good thoughts, though.

For real you guys seem like pussies...There's nothing wrong with teasing your good friends about anything. That's part of the fun of being close with a small group. Ya'll can share anything and always have a laugh about it.

I work with 90 some individuals and would say I am close friends with 4 of them...close enough that I would enjoy goofing around in this manner. I hear the phrase "I'm just giving you a hard time" from 50 f*cking people a night.I have no problem with teasing good friends and joking around with sarcasm and all the good tools of insecurity, but if someone has to explain to me that they were just joking then I either don't know them or don't like them well enough to do that kind of joking.We might be pussies, but at least we're not assholes.

Patches wrote:

For real you guys seem like pussies...There's nothing wrong with teasing your good friends about anything. That's part of the fun of being close with a small group. Ya'll can share anything and always have a laugh about it.

Patches wrote:

For real you guys seem like pussies...There's nothing wrong with teasing your good friends about anything. That's part of the fun of being close with a small group. Ya'll can share anything and always have a laugh about it.

I like to have a good time and joke around myself. But often times, people take something too far. It's usually the "asshole" type that does this. Not your close friends.

I have a good friend that cant take a joke like you pussies when I bust his balls. There is no harmful intent but some people just can't take a joke.

Some people have low self esteem. You can't be sarcastic with them because they'll crack. Me on the other hand can be roasted by all of letsrun and I would just laugh off anything that was said.

Trent Mauser wrote:

I have a good friend that cant take a joke like you pussies when I bust his balls. There is no harmful intent but some people just can't take a joke.

^^^this

Guppy wrote:

Trent Mauser wrote:

I have a good friend that cant take a joke like you pussies when I bust his balls. There is no harmful intent but some people just can't take a joke.

^^^this

If you know he can't take a joke, stop "busting his balls" asshole.

my friends can make fun of me all they want. if its good, i'll laugh and probably try to get them back. but it really irks me when some one i dont know makes a caustic remark even if they are only joking

no, he just needs to stop taking himself too seriously

Sup Cat wrote:

Some people have low self esteem. You can't be sarcastic with them because they'll crack. Me on the other hand can be roasted by all of letsrun and I would just laugh off anything that was said.

It's ok. We know you're crying inside.

Trent Mauser wrote:

I have a good friend that cant take a joke like you pussies when I bust his balls. There is no harmful intent but some people just can't take a joke.

The problem here is that your "good friend" isn't actually a good friend at all. You are simply too blind to realize it. To be more accurate, it is you who are not the friend. Your sort of passive-aggresive behavior is common among people with this personality disorder.

I believe that women call this sort of person a "frenemy". People like you don't actually know what a real friend is because you are incapable of relating to someone on that level.

Don't feel bad about it. The sad fact is there are more people with your disorder than there are without.

For me it all depends on who's saying stuff like this. I can tease back and forth with some people and neither they nor I take offense. But I can also usually tell when someone is doing that bullying kind of teasing that goes over the limit.... I'm not even sure how I can tell. Just something maybe in the person's tone or attitude.

I tell my friends that even in the process of joking around, if they're uncomfortable with something I am saying, that I will take it as a favor if they call me on it. Doesn't happen often, but when it does, I apologize.

It's important to know one's boundaries--and respect others' boundaries as well.

Maybe you should just decide to stop thinking what they say is that important. It's entirely up to you how you take things.

Even worse than that is the recently overused phrase, "just sayin..."

I really feel like punching people after saying that. So annoying.

HA-ha wrote:

Maybe you should just decide to stop thinking what they say is that important. It's entirely up to you how you take things.

I totally agree with this statement, but one of my current pet peeves with society in general is that everyone assumes their opinion is worth a damn. I mean even this board is centered around people saying what they think and assuming it's awesome. Look at any website with comment sections...they're filled to the brim with stupid shit that has no bearing on how the world turns, but people simply had to add their 2 cents. The people that goof around just to give you a hard time are often doing the same thing: verbalizing their observation as if they just discovered a new life form. And yes, I understand how it can be perceived as insecurity if I grow tired of listening to sh*t thrown at me, jokingly or not, but maybe I'm honestly just tired of hearing it.

FWIW, none of this matters per my first sentence anyway. :)

I only give people a hard time who interest me in some manner. Otherwise, I just ignore them. And I certainly enjoy receiving back in kind.