Grilfriend wants me to come to her family christmas, we've only been dating 2 weeks

I'm surprised that you refer to her as your girlfriend after only seeing her for two weeks.

But no, you definitely shouldn't go. This is assuming you've truly only known her for a short period of time (as opposed to having known her for years but you only started dating recently). It's way too early to be bringing you to family gatherings. I mean have you even had a chance to start meeting her friends yet? That should certainly be an early step, long before getting to know her family members.

Way too early unless you guys have been close friends for a much much longer time than you have been "dating". It's even a little worrying that she would invite you. Are you sure it isn't just like a large christmas party they always have she is inviting you to?

go for it. You and his father might become buddies! Imagine

you guys sharing a glass of goat milk on a hot summer evening.

You're in for a delightful Christmas dinner.

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Depends on the sort of Christmas you had planned beforehand.

‘A faint heart…’

Is the girl a worthy fair maid?

Depends how hot she is

ghost of christmas past wrote:

so we were at Red Lobster the other night

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!

Don't go. Two weeks?! How old are you guys? Two weeks does not a girlfriend and boyfriend make. Make whatever excuse you need to. If she responds badly, you'll find out something you needed to know anyway.

If your'e already into her panties or have the hots for her then yeah go. But if you have other girls to play with then ask her if the family just passes out presents or of they will get into the whole mythology, weird rituals and shit and go only if it's a benign deal. I wouldn't want to participate in any hate rituals given the track record of Christians and the worship of genocide and mass murder. Hitler, Stalin, Robert E. Lee, Trumen, LBJ, W. Bush, Obama, Queen Victoria, Churchill, ... were all Christians.

Judgement call wrote:

Hitler, Stalin, Robert E. Lee, Trumen, LBJ, W. Bush, Obama, Queen Victoria, Churchill, ... were all Christians.

Kind of a ridiculous idea there. They were also all people. Should we stop being people? They probably all also ate meat. Should we stop doing that? Most of them had hair. Should we all shave our heads?

And while many of those may be debatable as to whether they were Christians, I'd like to see any compelling evidence that Stalin was Christian.

Mao, Kim Jong Il, Genghis Khan, Charles Manson, Bin Laden, Saddam Hussein...all non-Christians. I guess by your logic, non-Christianity must also be bad. If you don't like Christianity, that's you're right, but use some logic, especially when spreading your garbage.

In 1000AD the Rus were civilized by believers of the Greek Orthodox Church. Stalin was born and raised in Russia as a Christian.

I'm more disturbed that you took a date to Red Lobster.

Judgement call wrote:

If you're already into her panties or have the hots for her then yeah go.

If the family just passes out presents or of they will get into the whole mythology, weird rituals

And here we have the interesting double-standard: The declaration of weird rituals from an old book as bad, with this nugget sandwiched between a litany of utterly arbitrary secular rituals.

How about some compromise here? I'm with most that it seems a little early in the relationship to be showcased/involved in her family Xmas celebration. Part of it is the timing of when you started dating. The timing is as awkward for your lady friend as it is for you.

What do you think of this possibility? Ask if you can avoid the main meal / big present-opening portion of it, and stop in later in the day/evening. (Might not work as well if they're a "Christmas Eve" family.)

But if you see some potential here and this is REALLY important to her, it might be worth it. But if you're uneasy about it, don't cave and try to work something out so you can be scrutinized, but in a little less emotionally-charged situation.

i'd go, but under the stipulation that you get to do her ass that night.

Yeah, make sure you show up at the end of the meal when everybody (including possibly her father and unstable uncle) are already all liquored up. Wish them a Happy Channukah and apologize for taking their baby to Red Lobster for a date. Red Lobster? Seriously?

Why not? They're just people. Get over yourself. If you're that incapable of being around her parents now, why would 6 months matter. It may just be what she's doing and she thought it would be a good way to spend time together. If it is meant to test you, sounds like she has already determined you're too immature to day...and she hasn't even actually tried hard.

Her mother wants to do you.

Go. It'll score you points on the bj meter.