Modern Love/Infidelity

I really liked that piece too - funny that it affected you enough to cite it here.

I particularly liked this part:

But the innocence will have gone out of your union and it will seem as if a bone has been broken and healed, but one that rain or cold weather can set to throbbing again.

I've been very happily married for 15 years and the two things I always repeat to myself are:

a) don't let the innocence leave the marriage through infidelity

and

b) per Bruce Springsteen:

When something caught his eye he'd measure his need

And then very carefully he'd proceed

and

Well if I had one wish for you in this god forsaken world, kid

It'd be that your mistakes will be your own

That your sins will be your own

meaning - don't make mistakes and sins that would wreck someone else.

glad you put this up

sounds like this woman has a lot of the crazy. but it's interesting to think about at least.

Yep, sounded like a lot of self-absorbed melodrama to me.

If you cheated on your spouse, why would you tell them? If you feel bad about it why not just stop and go on with your life?

A Skeptic wrote:

If you cheated on your spouse, why would you tell them? If you feel bad about it why not just stop and go on with your life?

if you want out of the marriage, clearly, but are too scared to do anything about it. Passive aggressive behavior.

This is why I hate people.

You people believe what you read from a newspaper or a song. How much influence do other people have something that is supposedly only between you and your partner?

When you think about all the commercials, the gossip, the media and how it affects your world view and how you perceive relationships and even how you BEHAVE in a relationship is it no wonder why so many people in today's world are completely screwed up?

Do I have to remind you people who controls the newspapers, the media, the banks, the government, and all centralized religions?

Its like people either enjoy suffering, or are too stupid to realize how they make themselves suffer.

Why does it seem like the only people who write these kinds of stories are self obsessed melodramatic unfaithful women and men?

Its as if the newspaper is saying look everyone is as screwed up as the author.

Its like the media just seeds mistrust everywhere to destroy the social fabric of everything.

Religion is dead the only people who practice it are morons or insane.

Relationships are being destroyed. The only people that believe in them are the young and misled.

Our trust in our fellow man is being destroyed as the income gap grows and racial tensions surge.

The social fabric everywhere being ripped apart.

I don't think that's what the author of this piece was communicating at all. It seems to me she was just trying to present two sides of unfortunate coin as she's been on both cheated on and a cheater. I can hardly find any reference where she seems to imply that "all relationships are being destroyed" or that "everyone is as screwed up as the author."

I'd imagine it was quite cathartic for the author to write this. In fact, I'd even wager that it could be cathartic for someone who has been cheated on, or someone whose life has been wrecked by their cheating. Whether or not you believe that the latter deserves any means of catharsis is another issue entirely, but I'd hardly think this piece does not strike a chord with a significant audience.

Is it a bit melodramatic? Perhaps, yeah. But she's not doing objective reporting. It appears to be an intentionally emotional article.

*of an unfortunate coin

Letsrun away wrote:

Do I have to remind you people who controls the newspapers, the media, the banks, the government, and all centralized religions?

You've never told me before. So who is it? Please tell me you don't think the Joooooooos run the world like UncleB.

Recently been cheated on and taken a completely downer viewpoint on pretty much everything?

Letsrun away wrote:

Why does it seem like the only people who write these kinds of stories are self obsessed melodramatic unfaithful women and men?

Its as if the newspaper is saying look everyone is as screwed up as the author.

Its like the media just seeds mistrust everywhere to destroy the social fabric of everything.

Religion is dead the only people who practice it are morons or insane.

Relationships are being destroyed. The only people that believe in them are the young and misled.

Our trust in our fellow man is being destroyed as the income gap grows and racial tensions surge.

The social fabric everywhere being ripped apart.

that article felt really honest.