I don't want this escalating any more so let me reiterate that my argument has NOTHING to do with what I feel about Jay, Mark, or Heather. My points are somewhat off tangent because I'm disagreeing with the way you argue moreso than the specific argument.
You can likely find a lot of programs with rising coaches who are power hungry know it alls, or are great coaches that the HC steals all the accolades from, or have had no qualms whatsoever and in fact had a positive experience all together. Similar spectrum with athletes. Some wrongly blamed the coach for lack of success, others were screwed by their coach, others had great experiences with many All Americans PRs, etc.
Whoever may be to blame, from what I gather it sounds like Jay didn't leave CU on the greatest terms, so what do you expect he'd say about CU, Wetmore, what he accomplished there, etc? Same with athletes? If you talked to Torres or Goucher, they'd probably say Wetmore is the greatest thing since sliced bread, you talk to Ryan, she'll probably give you the complete opposite.