I don't get this. People constantly ask me when am I going to get married but never seem to ask my divorced friends or relatives when they are going to marry again.
I don't get this. People constantly ask me when am I going to get married but never seem to ask my divorced friends or relatives when they are going to marry again.
At 34 people ask me the same questions. Why don't you have kids, why aren't you married?
I don't know why it bothers me but it drives me crazy.
because if no ho was ever willing to marry you there is something wrong with you. of course you post on letsrun for this advice so my point is proven.
Just like running, attracting the opposite gender is a skill just like anything else. You can work at it to get a lot better. I see ugly gangster jerks with smoking hot girls all the time. looks don't really matter, confidence and just talking to a girl and building a connection is what matters.
It's one of those family values things. Like Rush and Newt.
I never said anything about wanting to get married or anything about attracting a mate. I've been in relationships several hotties only to realize that most of them have self-esteem issues and wouldn't even consider marrying them. Really, everyone of my divorced friends (guys and gals) all say marriage is overrated.
I agree. Everybody thinks if you are not married it is because you can't. Anybody with a pulse can marry someone. Look at your local trailer park... It takes skill to wait for the right one. There were many girls I could have married but I knew that it wouldn't last with them. I married late in life and I always tell people I skipped the first divorce and went straight to the second marriage.
Once you reach a certain age, still single indicates either:
- loser
- immature
- self-centered
- loner
- gay
Tell them you have just got divorced
or that g@y marriages just don't work
'Tis better to have loved and lost than...
Because being divorced is like being overweight and in extreme debt. It is the norm in the US.
fat and unmarried wrote:
Because being divorced is like being overweight and in extreme debt. It is the norm in the US.
Get off of my case!! I happen to be divorced, obese and bankrupt. At least I'm not a minority. Wait. Oh crap, I am.
fitnessisamentalstate wrote:
Just like running, attracting the opposite gender is a skill just like anything else. You can work at it to get a lot better. I see ugly gangster jerks with smoking hot girls all the time. looks don't really matter, confidence and just talking to a girl and building a connection is what matters.
This is true.
curious mind.. wrote:
I don't get this. People constantly ask me when am I going to get married but never seem to ask my divorced friends or relatives when they are going to marry again.
They are secretly jealous that you're still living the single life and have all of it's perks. They want you to be faced with all of the responsibilities that marriage brings.
People have given up on divorcees, viewing them as a loser and not being able to make it, but they did take that plunge into marriage. People are trying to urge you to take that plunge into marriage for whatever selfish reason.
Marriage is a social construct. Are you going to lets this and many other social constructs dictate how you live your life?
I watched my sister go into a marriage, I knew that wouldn't work out. Watched him court her, watched my parents drop 10k on the wedding, then I watched as he slowly began to reveal himself; started hanging out with friends who just happen to be girls at the local dive bar. Said he wanted a divorce b/c she wouldn't go to the bar with him. The marriage lasted 6 months I believe. It was one of those life lessons for her, I suppose.
curious mind.. wrote:
I never said anything about wanting to get married or anything about attracting a mate. I've been in relationships several hotties only to realize that most of them have self-esteem issues and wouldn't even consider marrying them. Really, everyone of my divorced friends (guys and gals) all say marriage is overrated.
You seem to be attracted to women with self esteem issues. Describe for me your relationship with your mother.
Because at least your divorced friend have shown they are capable of attracting the opposite sex.
bixby bannister wrote:
Once you reach a certain age, still single indicates either:
- loser
- immature
- self-centered
- loner
- gay
This may be accurate but what about those who have a hard time relating to most people. Especially the generic, small town types?
If you are single and in your mid-thirties I would bet you would be happier in a larger more populated area where you will find more individual and unique people ( and more interesting).
I'm 43, live in a small town and never married. Where I work I hear people think I'm gay for this. I've had several girlfriends but only one I'd ever considered marrying.
If I had to live with most of these guys' wives around here I'd probably want to shoot myself every day when I woke up next to those hogs.
I don't know what the definition of a loser is but I would agree that the more money you make the easier it would be to marry a ahigh quality woman in the looks department.
Lets face it, if you are in your late thirties or forties or fifties and have never married, most people, whether they say it or not, believe you are gay. And there is a certain truth in that.
bixby bannister wrote:
Once you reach a certain age, still single indicates either:
- loser
- immature
- self-centered
- loner
- gay
You left two out: Smarter and Happier than the 56% that try and fail.
So when are you going to get married, anway?