Girl told me that because she weighs more than me (140lbs) I'm too small for her,must not understand that I am a runner?

I had this discussion with a female friend of mine recently. Basically it comes down to this:Women, all women, are insecure about their bodies. That's the reason many of them like to date guys who dwarf them. If you ever seen the 5'2"/6'2" couple you know what I'm talking about. Then you have girls who are 5'5" who say they absolutely will not date any guy less than 6' tall. (If any girls want to weigh in on that ridiculous premise, please feel free).I'm 5'9" and weigh about 140-145lbs and I date girls who all have weighed ~105-130lb, and yet still they make comments regarding weight/size. They never say "I'm so fat" they always say "You're so skinny." Keep in mind that at my height and weight as a distance runner I'm far from gaunt.For some girls, they need to feel towered over. For others, the height isn't an issue as much as feeling "smaller." Basically, girls have poor self-confidence regarding body image, so they try and be with a guy that makes them feel skinnier and smaller.I should also add in that us distance runners are oftentimes lighter than we look because we're relatively lean. You can be bigger than a girl and be the same weight as her. My suggestion is that you lie about your weight because they won't understand.Hope this helps.

ecto wrote:

Flagpole wrote:

Winner!

Actually, not necessarily true.

Distance runners who appear gaunt - or men who are slim in general - tend to cause a woman who is already sensitive about carrying some fat layers to feel more insecure about herself.

This is a little like men not wanting to date women taller than them, or average men not wanting to date female body builders. It's too far off the "norm." Some people don't feel trapped by the status quo. Date them.

Rear Admiral Hymen Lickover wrote:

You misunderstood the meaning of "too small."

Precisely my thoughts.

No- it has nothing to do with a woman being insecure about her body weight. The reason is that most women consider men with larger physiques to be more masculine than those with smaller physiques. Scrawny men = insecure, inexperienced, prepubescent losers.

When ever your thinness comes up, even in joking, just remind her you are an endurance athlete and as such can last forever in bed. Much, much, much longer than her lame boyfriend who is winded and done inside of 5 minutes.

That will give her something to think about next time he is done before she gets there.

Rick Ross wrote:

I am male 5'10" and 135. Girl who was friend of mine who was studying abroad with me in business grad school basically told me indirectly that because she weighs more than me (140lbs), that I'm too small for her

She wants a fat guy. Move on.

There are plenty of attractive women who weigh in the range of 100 to 120 pounds, depending on height of course. When I worked in the school system most of the women in the office were fat, except for one young woman from Japan. The other women kept asking her how she kept so lean. Finally she laughed and said that in Japan her friends called her "fatty", because she weighed 98 pounds.

Her friends weighed something like 84 to 95 pounds.

Over time I am sure you would not be happy with a woman who is fat. If she is 140 already, she will probably keep gaining weight for eternity. Take a look at her mom and that's a guide for how she's going to look a few years from now.

I'm 5"10 and 152 pounds. I'm quick too. Oh and I've had sex with numerous hot women. Some runners get laid...

come on guys, LOL @ "Latin girl", right???

Perpetual Gang Wars Forever wrote:

come on guys, LOL @ "Latin girl", right???

She was just embarrassed she had a bigger package than the OP.

Perpetual Gang Wars Forever wrote:

come on guys, LOL @ "Latin girl", right???

I dont know waht to call her - Spanish girl? dominican? Brazil? one of those girls who is hot but wouldnt make a good runner but she got a C cup and nice curves. hope that helps. not like match.com who has a 180pounder.

not like match.com who has a 180pounder.

That would be a pig latin girl.

Bottom line.

Move on.

Next!

The correct response to when she told you that you were too small:

"Gobble Gobble!"

Ageless Senility wrote:

When ever your thinness comes up, even in joking, just remind her you are an endurance athlete and as such can last forever in bed. Much, much, much longer than her lame boyfriend who is winded and done inside of 5 minutes.

Sadly, this is a widely held misconception about male long distance runners. Their lack of endurance in the bedroom may be related to their inexperience with women or physical exhaustion from high mileage. Whatever the reason may be, it inevitably leads to frustration and boredom.

You should have said, "Well, your mother told me she could only feel a few ounces; so, the rest is just for show."

When a woman disqualifies herself with "I'm too (fat,tall,cute, ugly,young,whatever)", there is one and only one response, delivered absolutely deadpan:

"You're totally right about that"

...then move on to talking about the expired milk in your fridge or your friends dumb dog or whatever. You have just planted a seed and if you have decent game you can make it grow...

IF IT DOESN'T MATTER TO YOU THEN IT DOESN'T MATTER PERIOD. Women are constantly testing you for teh slightest insecurity. Passing little tests like this is how you spark attraction, AND KEEP IT.

Ugly people date ugly people. Attractive people date attractive people. End thread.

yo-yo yo Rick, here I'll give you some advice.

Next time you go out, tell yourself 3 times "All women want the d"

and remember these three rules:

1) Get hammerd

2) Be assertive, don't be afraid to get what you want.

3) Don't fear rejection, everyone gets rejected, except slow balls hes a boss.

Another tip use eskimo kisses, women love them.

You stick with that and you'll have a fat assed latina in no time.

No one using this site has experience with attractive women.

Thread closed.

Dude, eat something. Seriously.