Dating someone who is not very smart

Not a bad person but... wrote:

When we talk, at first it was cute to hear the mispronounced words, now it annoys me.

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We get along well, don't fight, have this amazing physical connection but mentally are in a different world.

It will not work out long term.

1. It it's an annoyance now, it will only get more annoying over time.

2. "Physical connections" always fade.

If you're OK being in a relationship that won't last, then don't worry about it. Otherwise, it's time to bail.

Diversify your portfolio.

It is good to date some dumb women but date some smarter folks to up your dating IQ. Sleep with the dumb girl and have other smarter women as "friends".

By the way just because a girl like beer and ketchup doesn't mean she is dumb. Nice dinners and wine don't make a person smart.

But don't (AS IN DO NOT) marry her.

Get out now, in the long run you will not be happy. The physical stuff doesn't last forever, especially when you get older. If you are really thinking about a future with someone, find someone you can have a conversation with at your level. If you are just playing around, then go ahead and play, but just realize that in the end, smarts ARE important!

Not a bad person but... wrote:

We have been dating for about 8 months. The physical connection is amazing. BUT, this person is not very smart, didn't attend college. I like to have nice dinners and enjoy a glass of wine. My date wants beer and covers the food with ketchup. When we talk, at first it was cute to hear the mispronounced words, now it annoys me. We get along well, don't fight, have this amazing physical connection but mentally are in a different world. Our family background is also totally opposite which concerns me. The best example I can think of is this person is like someone from the old show/movie "The Beverly Hillbillies" but again not a bad person at all in many other ways.

Suggestions?

I say cut him some slack. Since he's no longer president, he needs to fill his time with something.

So she is hot but stupid? Would you want to raise a family with this woman?

Is she emotionally healthy, kind, and really care about you? If so, I suggest you stay with her. A few years ago, I made the mistake of ending a relationship with a woman who was not that bright and not very career-oriented. We had all of the same connections that you have with your girlfriend. Since ending things with her, I have dated many extremely intelligent and beautiful women with great careers. However, almost every single one was rude, condescending, ungrateful, bad in bed, or just plain mean. I would give almost anything to have my ex back.

Believe me, having someone who can discuss early Modern American literature is not nearly as important as having someone who genuinely cares about you and is emotionally healthy.

If you're okay with just a mostly-physical relationship (which will be short-term), no problem. If you're looking for long-term happiness and stability (perhaps leading to marriage), drop him/her. Never marry a stupid person. Never.

The two of you can probably make each other happy for a few more months, and the sex is worth having. Good sex can be a life-changing experience.

But eventually, you'll have to move on. And there are smart, nice, sexy people out there. You'll find one.

This girl I dated awhile back once asked me, "What's faster? Speed or sound?"

Douglas Raymond wrote:

The two of you can probably make each other happy for a few more months, and the sex is worth having. Good sex can be a life-changing experience.

But eventually, you'll have to move on. And there are smart, nice, sexy people out there. You'll find one.

This is what I believe. Frankly, personally I am not interested in going out with somebody who is not smart. It is too important to me. Don't settle.

The funny thing is that you didn't know the answer.

Now what about the opposite? Someone who is very smart, lots in common with, same values, great conversation but not in great physical shape?

The even funnier thing is.......neither do you.

What does great physical connection mean? You're both attracted to each other and the sex is great?

I say just dump him/her. In 10 years, you're going to wonder why your kids are so dumb and hate their bad habits, all the while trying to change who they are, when what you're really trying to do is trying to get them to be less like your spouse.

Not a bad person but... wrote:

I like to have nice dinners and enjoy a glass of wine. My date wants beer and covers the food with ketchup. When we talk, at first it was cute to hear the mispronounced words, now it annoys me.

I find it interesting that so many responses seemed to conclude that the OP was talking about a female. Could be; but it's at least as likely that a person who wants beer instead of wine and covers food with ketchup is male.

Frankly, I think this whole thing is probably trollage; but the fact that I can't be sure puts this right up at an 8/10 on the FP scale--outstanding!

Kicker wrote:

By the way just because a girl like beer and ketchup doesn't mean she is dumb. Nice dinners and wine don't make a person smart.

It's a guy anyway.

Why did the OP go to so much trouble to hide the gender of "this person"?

Because most younger female posters go to so much trouble to hide their own gender.

Sure I do. It's quite obvious.