I was in your shoes 30 years ago.
I went to school on a Division 1 scholarship - a bit different then - Title IX did not have the bite it does now, and more scholarships were available.
I have two daughters now who don't run, but are Phi Beta Kappa performers at so-called top 10 schools. They are in every way stellar and mature academic performers, whose choices and prospects are vast. I went to some of the best undergrad and grad schools in the country - but I am light years from these two. As far as my kids go, I married well - but I hope I did something right, too.
My perspective as a parent is different from that as an athlete.
Go to the school that fulfills your goals and would cause you to be the most challenged and yet happy if, for whatever reason, you got there and never ran another step. Running well is nice - it is actually more challenging than anything I have ever done professionally - but it is still just that - running - and is a sport that has marginal economic prospects for all but a few. This doesn't mean that you go to a school where you can "blow-off" running or take it less seriously than a Division 1 challenge requires, but that you put yourself, with a coach assisting, in a state that permits you to control running rather than let it control you. This may sound corny, but a self image that says, I am a good budding engineer/computer scientist/pre-law guy/pre-med/teacher - or what have you - that just happens to enjoy expressing myself through running is the way to go. If you turn out to be a Nick Symmonds (I love Div. III athletic successes), you can worry about the full time professional track thing then.
This advice may be a bit amorphous - but a young man with your profile has a heck of lot on the ball and you likely very quickly can conclude which schools meet this standard.Y You appear to have helpful and involved parents, too - I had no parental involvement - zip, zero - so my advice here comes from a legion of mistakes. And in any event, you ought to be able to get a feel, with some due diligence, as to whether a coach would embrace that perspective.
Oh, and by the way....although I don't have coaching skills in the sport - far from it - I find more college careers get off to a bad start from haphazard training in the summer after the final high school track season. The transition from the regimented life of high school to college is unsettling - and rather than look to running the miles as a burden or chore - and I would opt for a longer, slower mileage approach to get used to college level work - I would view the training as one fun constant in your life as you make the transition.