In the animal kingdom, many females have males compete for them, and her sex goes to the winner, not necessarily the one she was with because she wants the best seed for offspring. Women arw no different. If something better comes along wait and see what happens. Male animals want to sow their seed with many females to ensure the bloodline. Its the same with humans. Its biological. Any refraining from this behavior in humans is because of repression of societal values and that dag gone bible. Now we have poeople trapped in marriage with the same sex partners. No wonder men get shut off. Men as a whole disappoint women i think. We don't live up to who they thought they could mould us into becoming. When it fails they get pissed and no longer want to make us happy. If you are happy in a marriage and love someone you want to please them and make them feel good. Knowing your "lover" has a desire for release or to be close to you and then refusing to abide in those wishes repeatedly is a sign there is really no love. For those of you in those marriages, wake up! Sexless marriages are loveless marriages. That doesn't mean divorce necessarily but it is a sign something is wrong. You can always try to work to get it back but it takes effort on both ends.