Does dating seem impossible to anyone else? (and I'm good looking, fit & make 110k per year)

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1 day ago 11/05/2025 5:59pm EST

I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.

Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.

1 day ago 11/05/2025 6:01pm EST

re: bleak outlook

1 day ago 11/05/2025 6:07pm EST

re: bleak outlook

Stop trying to date only the hottest women. If you do, you're just going to produce primadonna tall f'boy sons who develop a lack of empathy, psychopathy, and will have no understanding of why they're on planet earth and to whom their worship is owed (not to themselves!)

When you only try to f' with hot women, particularly if you aren't a rugged old fashioned male with sheer power and a steadfast and calming demeanor, you'll inevitably have bad experiences with women. Especially the hot ones, who don't respect people who are the basic package.

Terveisin, (Swedish or something for yours truly, thanks 4chan)

-Calfshrug, a person with very little knowledge but who does have a certain perspective on things

1 day ago 11/05/2025 6:39pm EST

re: bleak outlook

What is your weight & physique look like? (I know you say you're fit but do you have a runner's build or do you have muscles & some size?).

If you have a typical runner's build on the thin side, try added some weight & muscles. Not a bulky bodybuilder or powerlifting look, but a muscular, aesthetic look with lots of definition.

You're 5'11" which is a great frame to add some muscles & size. You'll look strong, powerful, imposing, etc. I'm a lot shorter than you & when I changed to a muscular, aesthetic physique, it really helped giving me more options with women than I ever has before. A lot of women at the gym that I was invisible to, suddenly found interest in me. Isn't that amazing how that works. 😉

Watch this video. Here's some guidelines to get started on. Good luck:

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1 day ago 11/05/2025 6:39pm EST

re: bleak outlook

So you are convinced you are right and 100 women are all the issue. Get some lotion champ you are in it for the long haul.

1 day ago 11/05/2025 8:26pm EST

re: bleak outlook

Sounds like you are the problem. 100 first dates? LOL. Frick no it’s not hard, have something to offer these 304s and they will come a running. You should be crushing it. Make decent money, not short. Marriage is an archaic custom, forget about that. Go overseas for a trip but just smash, no marriage. If you are really set on marriage, prenup prenup prenup, go much younger. Mid 20s is the sweet spot. No single moms.

1 day ago 11/05/2025 8:28pm EST

re: Masked Off

Masked Off wrote:
Sounds like you are the problem. 100 first dates? LOL. Frick no it’s not hard, have something to offer these 304s and they will come a running. You should be crushing it. Make decent money, not short. Marriage is an archaic custom, forget about that. Go overseas for a trip but just smash, no marriage. If you are really set on marriage, prenup prenup prenup, go much younger. Mid 20s is the sweet spot. No single moms.

Yeah listen to this guy LMAO!!!! Everyone hates this guy's guts and he still thinks he's giving out good advice. What a total disillusioned child.

1 day ago 11/05/2025 9:07pm EST

re: bleak outlook

You’re mid 30s. Go for mid late 20s

1 day ago 11/05/2025 10:10pm EST

re: hate this fker

hate this fker wrote:
Masked Off wrote:
Sounds like you are the problem. 100 first dates? LOL. Frick no it’s not hard, have something to offer these 304s and they will come a running. You should be crushing it. Make decent money, not short. Marriage is an archaic custom, forget about that. Go overseas for a trip but just smash, no marriage. If you are really set on marriage, prenup prenup prenup, go much younger. Mid 20s is the sweet spot. No single moms.
Yeah listen to this guy LMAO!!!! Everyone hates this guy's guts and he still thinks he's giving out good advice. What a total disillusioned child.

I'm pretty sure half of his posts are copy/paste at this point. Seriously, it's the same tired points every post about "gf or roster only" or "make good money and see how much supposed flaws disappear" or "lol poors stop being lazy and work at UPS". I almost wonder if he's a robot, his posts are that repetitive. Oh well, I suppose if pretending to be successful makes him feel better about spamming the same posts all day long and doing nothing else in life, so be it

1 day ago 11/05/2025 10:11pm EST

re: bleak outlook

Nope.

Good luck, though.

1 day ago 11/05/2025 10:20pm EST

re: Feels copy pasted at this point

Feels copy pasted at this point wrote:
I'm pretty sure half of his posts are copy/paste at this point. Seriously, it's the same tired points every post about "gf or roster only" or "make good money and see how much supposed flaws disappear" or "lol poors stop being lazy and work at UPS". I almost wonder if he's a robot, his posts are that repetitive. Oh well, I suppose if pretending to be successful makes him feel better about spamming the same posts all day long and doing nothing else in life, so be it

Even AI chat bots can produce better responses

1 day ago 11/05/2025 10:37pm EST

re: Masked Off

Masked Off wrote:
Sounds like you are the problem. 100 first dates? LOL. Frick no it’s not hard, have something to offer these 304s and they will come a running. You should be crushing it. Make decent money, not short. Marriage is an archaic custom, forget about that. Go overseas for a trip but just smash, no marriage. If you are really set on marriage, prenup prenup prenup, go much younger. Mid 20s is the sweet spot. No single moms.

I said the juice aint worth the squeeze, not that I can't attract anything. Are you dumb?

1 day ago 11/05/2025 10:41pm EST

re: bleak outlook

bleak outlook wrote:
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.

Mid 30s and only $110k a year? Lmao

1 day ago 11/05/2025 10:47pm EST

re: Atlandia

Atlandia wrote:
bleak outlook wrote:
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.
Mid 30s and only $110k a year? Lmao

I know right? Guy is a total poor. No wonder women don't want him.

1 day ago 11/05/2025 10:57pm EST

re: bleak outlook

Yeah OP, dating does seem impossible to me these days. My wife of 22 years simply won’t allow it for some reason. It’s also difficult to find the time to date given all my responsibilities involving my kids sports, activities, etc. Dating is totally impossible these days!

1 day ago 11/05/2025 11:43pm EST

re: Brady Hartsfield

I met my wife at 36, and she was the most attractive woman i have ever dated.

1 day ago 11/05/2025 11:45pm EST

re: Keep at it

And oh yeah, women can seem level headed until you are in a proper relationship with them, so just see the lack of levelheadedness as knowing what you moight be in for the long haul…whereas if it seems too good to be true it may well be. lol

so yeah, don’t let the supposed lack of levelheadedness put you off.

1 day ago 11/05/2025 11:51pm EST

re: bleak outlook

bleak outlook wrote:
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.

Marriage and kids? How about just connecting with someone and seeing where it goes? You’re terrifying perfectly good women with the notion that you want to put them in some neat little box that you think is your life, instead of viewing them as human beings.

If you just want the wifey and 2.5 kids, then go abroad. And then have fun when they discard you when they’re done getting what they want, your meager net worth. $110k a year is not a flex.

1 day ago 11/05/2025 11:51pm EST

re: bleak outlook

bleak outlook wrote:
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.

You said you were going to move to Russia. What happened with that?

1 day ago 11/05/2025 11:53pm EST

re: Atlandia

Atlandia wrote:
bleak outlook wrote:
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.
Mid 30s and only $110k a year? Lmao

This is a woman’s salary and anyway, focusing on salary shows you think that’s all you have to offer. “Handsome” is not “hot.”

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