Would you leave a near perfect woman if you wanted to be a father and she couldn't have kids?

What's wrong with adoption?

Simply saying "I don't want to", makes it sound like you're not taking the whole situation very seriously.

Leave her azz

No, but I suppose I haven't wanted to be a father.

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She deserves someone better than you

No. Freedom ends with kids. They're not going to look after you when you're old. Buy long-term health insurance today.

Work on fixing youself. Your reason for wanting kids seems selfish and/or controlling.

Why do you doubt she’d be on with a surrogate? Unless you imagine just getting another woman pregnant…

And why not adopting? Unless again this is like some ‘manosphere’ thing where it’s about spreading your seed.

Seems like you just want to get a girl pregnant and have her take care of your kid. Nothing about actually raising a kid…

I'm not a parent.

A life partner will be with you forever (hopefully).

You raise a child, do the best they can, but they have their own lives and may end up thousands of miles away and doing their own things.

IMHO you should be thinking as much about the person you'll be with at age 70 when health issues crop up.

Time to move on, let her cats keep her company for real from now on

Yes, that's a reasonable deal breaker

Strange accusation. It’s all too normal for people to want to have biological children. It’s an innately evolved desire that sustains any animal species. It has little to do with not wanting to adopt or patriarchy.

Imagine how sh*tty that woman would feel about herself for someone leaving her for that reason.

How about you work on being less judgmental. Wanting to have biological children is perfectly legitimate. For many people, their family genealogy is very important to them. It's meaningful to trace their lineage from their ancestors to their children. In certain cultures such as Indigenous cultures, it's sacred to them. Nothing wrong with that.

Does it really matter what I think?

I know a couple like this. They both wanted kids and she can't have them. They are still together and making the most of being a couple with no kids. That works for them. I think it would have worked for me. If having your own kids is a deal-breaker, however, then it won't work for you.

Life is about compromises. If you marry this person and stay with them, then that means you can't marry that other person a few years from now. Is that okay? Would you be happier if you did?

Perhaps you'll regret leaving this person over this matter. Perhaps you'll regret staying. No one knows. Make the best choices you can with what you know now and roll with it as much as possible.

If your "gf is near perfect, a true life partner", then you have your answer. Propose to her and stop whining.

I think the discussion would depend in part on why she is unable to have kids. Does she not produce viable oocytes, or does she produce viable oocytes and have some other reason for being unable to carry a pregnancy to term. If the latter, I'd push hard for using a surrogate with oocytes provided by the GF.

I saw on the news that the owners of the Unpainted Arizona furniture chain just had quintuplets. Just saying.

I have questions as to how you know she can't have kids and why.

If we were dating, I would leave. I was also very clear early in my relationships that I wanted kids so I never ran into this issue. If we were engaged or already married I would stay.

Alternative hypothetical situation: You get married to a girl and she only finds out afterwards that she can't have kids. Do you divorce her? Or you find out that the problem is on your end, should she divorce you?

I would hope the answer would be no. So if she wants to have kids but can't, then do it another way. Push for surrogacy or get over yourself and adopt.