I've been dating my gf for about two years. She's been crying to me a fair bit over the last couple months, not even about any specific thing really, just that she feels chronically overwhelmed by life, her job, responsibilities, etc. It got me thinking, in the time I've known her, I don't think she's ever expressed that she's doing well or feels good, confident, etc. It's not that she's depressed, really, more just like kind of regular life stuff is too much for her to handle and cope with.
Tbh, this has been giving me some pause about our relationship and what to do with it since it feels like we're nearing the point at which we should probably decide if it's truly going somewhere or not, like leading potentially to marriage or something. My gf is overall a good partner, healthy, kind, etc, but I'm also not sure about what 10+ years of life together would look like if simply working full time and taking care of life chores feels like too much to her. She has told me she would take a year off if she could...
Is any of this a red flag? Or is it common? Seems like several women I've dated in the past have been like this too, but I didn't date them long enough to feel like I have good insight into who they really were on a deep level, so I'm not sure. We are both in our early 30s for whatever that is worth.