Red flag? Attractive, fit, 30 year old woman has never been in a relationship

She's probably asexual and makes IG/Tiktok videos about it. Keep moving.

In my experience, they don’t desire sex and/or companionship as much coz if they did, they’d have gotten it. That doesn’t mean they can’t make for a good companion necessarily because a relationship is a two-person equation and can be successful if the two of you have complementary attributes.

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I was concentrating on my career and while I dated I wanted no part of a serious relationship until I was about 35. Up until then I worked long days and wanted the freedom to do what I wanted which could have included relocating for a job.

So, on its own, it isn't a red flag.

I met a woman about a year and a half ago who was smart, beautiful, fun, and seemingly a catch. However, she had two kids and had been married and divorced THREE times. Talking with her, spending some time with her, at first I couldn't really make sense of it. We were just friends at first, then it progressed from there, and we started seeing each other regularly and having genuinely really good times together. Then she randomly blew up the relationship for no reason and blocked me on social media. The reason, as far as I could gather, was something EXTREMELY trivial that isn't even worth getting into. It suddenly became clear why her life situation was what it was.

I say all this with zero satisfaction as this woman was so great in a variety of ways, and I felt like we genuinely "clicked" and were good for each other. The hard truth is that some people, even if they are overall good people, are just terrible at relationships, probably due to some unresolved trauma, but that's kind of a whole nother thread.

Personally, if I met someone who was 30+ who had either not had a relationship or who had a troubled relationship history, I would be very wary of proceeding forward with them.

Does she suddenly want a relationship with you?

Ditto the person that said she was career focused at that age. My career training was intensive and involved a move every few years, didn't want to complicate things. Find out what she does for a living. If she's, foe example, an MD, that makes sense. If she works at Starbucks, that might be a red flag.

You'll need a little extra patience and likely have to spring for a few extra drinks.

For some people it's a green flag. She takes a relationship very seriously and is hoping her first is her only one, lasting forever. Ask yourself, is she being patient and selective?

Even repulsive, ugly women can find a relationship if they want to. There's plenty of guys ready, willing and able.

She's one of the childless cat women that Vance warned us about.

Maybe she's just a late bloomer. Maybe she has attributes that would make her a poor mate for some people but not for others. Maybe she has been focused on other things. Not enough information about you or her.

I have met so many single girls ages 28-33 that sure, you can say have like 50 red flags to them. Sometimes you just leave shaking your head at the total narcissism and delusion—but hey, you probably have similar traits you aren't aware of. What do you do about it? I think that's just the world now.

What's wrong with working at Starbucks? Seems like an unnecessary comment

She might be religious and looking for someone who matches her religion, which limits her options a lot depending on location. Sort of like Lolo Jones (but hopefully without her impossibly high standards). That's one of the only explanations I can think of. Another is, maybe she moved a lot, never had time to settle down, and is extremely shy. This is a pretty rare situation though.

Are you an attractive female? If not, very different situation.

Run as fast as you can. There’s nothing but trouble in your future! She doesnt live in Boone does she?