Yes. Pretty much act like 30 year olds for the rest of their lives. That really wasn't a terrible point in my life.
Some people are really good at forming strong relationships with people, and maybe don't need to have a brood to fulfill a void. It's a different path in life. But I don't see a problem with it. Definitely better than the 50%+ group of parents who aren't actually that good at it.
I also see Vance's argument of people with kids vs no kids investment and perspective in the future. BUT almost all politicians are disingenuous liars, zero moral fiber; so in the end, I don't think this really makes much of a difference.
Do they just act like 30 year old kids for the rest of their lives? How do they achieve deep fulfillment? Do they usually regret it?
In all seriousness, I never ever felt any inclination to have children and thankfully my wife of 37 years was exactly the same. I suspect we act like most people in their mid-60's in that we have a load of fun as often as possible and have very deep passions for certain hobbies. I not only don't regret it, but often think of how fortunate I feel. I have no fear of growing old without kids.
I have 8 aunt/uncles who are all still alive, all in their 50-60s and have been married for at least 20 years. 7 couples had 3 or more kids who are all adults now. 1 couple never had kids and it was a choice not due to infertility.
Guess which couple is the only couple that is not overweight/obese, is the least stressed, has the most energy, always has a positive attitude and is the most financially stable? The couple with no kids.
They both recently retired a decade before any of my other uncles/aunts (most of them are still working in their mid/late 60s). They travel often, volunteer often, and host meals/gatherings frequently at their home for friends/co-workers.
If you want kids that's great, but the whole idea that childless couples are some weird anomaly with no valid basis behind their decision is complete ignorance.
My wife and I aren't having kids. I have close to a dozen active hobbies that I don't even have enough free time to put into them as I want, even without kids. Plus being able to spend more quality time with the person I liked enough to marry is pretty nice.
Yes. Pretty much act like 30 year olds for the rest of their lives. That really wasn't a terrible point in my life.
Some people are really good at forming strong relationships with people, and maybe don't need to have a brood to fulfill a void. It's a different path in life. But I don't see a problem with it. Definitely better than the 50%+ group of parents who aren't actually that good at it.
To each their own. It is a new reality we live in where people are choosing self immortality over fertility. It’s probably better that people do so without children than with children. For me, parenting has been one of the great experiences of my life and I do not regret it in the least. I enjoyed my 29 years as a single man. I enjoyed the 5 years married with no kids. I have enjoyed the years I have spent raising my kids who are turning into fine young adults. For me, life has been about phases: first thirty years were mine, middle twenty years belong to the family and the final thirty years are for my wife and I. Overall I believe if you view kids as a blessing and treat them as such, they will be a blessing. If you view kids as a burden and try to focus on selfish ambitions (money, partying, etc.), your kids will become a burden. Better that those who are unwilling to look beyond their own concerns not have kids.
Wine flights. Rescue pit bulls. Collect vinyl records and play them on vintage high end audiophile sound systems. Spend thousands on cameras and build a photo lab in their basement so they can take black and white pictures of old barns on the weekend. Buy a lovely Craftsman bungalow, take the interior down to the studs and then ruin it with every design cliche that is trending on Houzz and Pintrest. Spend lots of time with nieces and nephews (until they get fussy and difficult, then it is time to head home to beat the traffic). Brunch. Pickle ball. All expenses included resorts in Playa Del Carmen. David Sedaris concerts. Binge watch The Bear (it actually is very good). Try to become fluent in Spanish, but fall on your face when you try to make small talk with the valet at the steak house. Yoga retreats. Try swinging. Have multiple affairs instead. Get divorced. Remarry and have kids.
Do they just act like 30 year old kids for the rest of their lives? How do they achieve deep fulfillment? Do they usually regret it?
Ummmm lol what do parents do at 30 with kids? Not sleep together? when does your wife find out you just had kids with her to pretend you straight buddy? lol you think your wife thinks your straight cuz you force yourself to have kids with her and you guys “sleep together 2x a month” bro you not even straight so stop pretending single 30s people have it worse hahaha idk we probably sleep with many women when we want, focus on family, health, our community. people who have kids nowadays just use as excuse to be lazy in the community and sexless. Prove me wrong. also singles men and woman are statistically happy at all stages of life. Only simps have children nowadays. Especially the conceited guy who is 160lbs and wrote this post. How long is your wife gonna play being your beard dude? Or did she not take a hint seeing how you love seeing your guy friends every weekend? i know who posted this haha. Bro you not even straight and you decided to have kids with your wife. I will never understand that kind of self hatred
Yes. Pretty much act like 30 year olds for the rest of their lives. That really wasn't a terrible point in my life.
Some people are really good at forming strong relationships with people, and maybe don't need to have a brood to fulfill a void. It's a different path in life. But I don't see a problem with it. Definitely better than the 50%+ group of parents who aren't actually that good at it.
To each their own. It is a new reality we live in where people are choosing self immortality over fertility. It’s probably better that people do so without children than with children. For me, parenting has been one of the great experiences of my life and I do not regret it in the least. I enjoyed my 29 years as a single man. I enjoyed the 5 years married with no kids. I have enjoyed the years I have spent raising my kids who are turning into fine young adults. For me, life has been about phases: first thirty years were mine, middle twenty years belong to the family and the final thirty years are for my wife and I. Overall I believe if you view kids as a blessing and treat them as such, they will be a blessing. If you view kids as a burden and try to focus on selfish ambitions (money, partying, etc.), your kids will become a burden. Better that those who are unwilling to look beyond their own concerns not have kids.
What a sad depressing philosophy of life. This kind of stuff you can’t make up. That’s your view of life? O m g