Love my wife and would never hurt her but

Find a man who has the same interests and hang out with them. If you're just looking for someone with the same interests, just find that in a friendship.

Not sure if this is a troll or not. Just in case, let me be clear: you are on a dangerous road. Stop texting with this woman. You know what you’re doing. Be faithful to your wife.

It will not matter if you did or didn't do any thing wrong. It is called a sin of omission. Your wife will no longer trust you if she finds out on her own about this women. You need to tell your wife about talking to this other women and probably what you two talk about. It is the only way you can control the narrative. You have alot to loose. Honest and fourth coming is the only way to go if you want to keep your wife happy.

There's a lot of interesting and attractive women out there but at the end of the day you can depend on and trust your wife when times get hard, even if they are a pain in the neck half the time.

Even if you run off with this women, I'm sure she would eventually become a pain in the neck too. Also, who would want to be with someone who can easily cheat on their husband?

Emotional affair. You are posting because you know it’s wrong

Dumbest suggestion ever, even just to make a point.

OP you are in the right here and deserve your innocent relationship.

What’s wrong with a married man having a platonic female friend?

There are two seperate issues here.

FIrst, you don't seem totally thrilled with your wife's willingness to listen to you or communicate on a stimulating level. That is one issue and you may want to work on that, or not, your choice.

Second, your attraction to the other woman. I say do not avoid it. You seek to be invigorated and that woman is a person who you like being with. Keep it on a friendly level and there is nothing to be avoided, If it evolves into a fling, then you should probably be honest with your wife. I say this if you feel comfortable doing so, and if not, stop interacting.

How long have you been married? Do you have children?

How would you feel if she was doing this to you. You are married, commit or GTFO.

Good to know you would never hurt your wife's but

Honestly I stopped reading because I lost interest. Sounds like your wife isn’t alone.

You're first mistake was getting married. Bad deal for men. I have no idea how old you are or how long you have been married but this is how it's going to go, most likely. She's going to leave you at some point. The courts will side for her because that's what the courts do. She will take half your money, the house, and if there's kids then them to. She will be a single woman again! That means riding the carousel, vacationing with the girls, shopping, and maybe even a negative word or two about you to the kids. It's not all bad though, if you have money and/or a great job (unlikely) then you will have your pick of women, single and married. Have fun.

Would you be okay with your wife constantly texting another man?

Have you considered that she might be right?

You seem like an ass, man

Thanks for all the replies. My wife and I love each other dearly and there is no chance we would ever leave each other or that I would even want to cheat on her. Only my wife is attractive sexually to me.

I am retired with adult children. But my wife has a nasty habit of dismissing any idea I have that's not of a practical nature.

This other women and I just have great conversations. I do not have one impure thought when I am with her, but knowing this beautiful woman is interested in my ideas feels good. I can't deny her beauty makes a difference. We have only met in group social situations but we tend to focus on each other

Everything is completely innocent but there does seem to be a spark between us so maybe thats why I feel some guilt.

I guess that could be taken two ways

Your wife doesn’t respect you. You meet certain needs for her and that’s it. It won’t ever change. Marriage is a risky thing and I really have to question why this generation does it.

I don’t advocate an affair because you will end up doubling your problems with likely no gain and more problems. If you want out of the marriage - and again this is with a woman who doesn’t respect you - go out the front door and be extremely disciplined.

If you have kids well then the focus should be on them. You should document every day what you can do to make their lives better. They will appreciate it years down the road. Tough pill to swallow because it feels good to be the object of a nice smile, but there are likely no great choices here.