I'm 20 and never had a relationship. Is the problem me or women?

Get off of dating apps. You're not going to find a quality woman on there. It also makes you low quality.

You have broken 4. If you think that is what gets the females to swoon you are sadly mistaken.

What are your other great talents?

If you can’t get a date in college then you aren’t trying

Focus on your own development and also community service and the right woman will show up.

Still very young but it won't get any easier. The young ones really have a weird way to interacting with people. That could be part of the problem. If you're a scrawny distance guy, you may not realize this but a good portion of girls/women aren't into that. It's hard to believe but it's true.

Read your handle and your post to yourself word for word 3 times and then come back to my response.

-You lack confidence, obviously so, but attempt to appear confident. This comes off as insecure narcissism which is extremely unattractive and people pick up on it fairly quickly.

-You assign value to people based on a subjective 1-10 scale based on appearance. The one thing a human being can’t control about themselves.

-You assign value to people based on height. Same idea as up there ^^

-You look for a relationship on sites full of people who either don’t know how to be in a healthy relationship or don’t want to be in a healthy relationship.

^^ You probably can’t stand when people do any of the above but don’t fully recognize that you do all of the above.

Work on being an interesting, well rounded person. Runners who are fully dedicated to the sport and nothing else are attractive to runners, runners who are dedicated to their sport but also have passion about things like different art mediums, philosophy, cars, whatever it be are attractive to a much wider range of people.

Not making this post to drag on you, making this post as someone who has had a large dry spell in making actual romantic connections with people in their life, and now has a very smart, very attractive, and very kind human as a girlfriend. Things are a lot clearer in hindsight so you should take advice from people that have escaped the emotional loneliness plague infecting a large part of the modern dating pool instead of people who are also trapped in it that think they know why.

And this guy doesn’t get a 1st date so don’t worry about it!

You are obviously talented at running. You are very young. You sound a bit narcissistic.

When you go on a date, are you asking the girl questions about herself? Show interest in them. Don't reveal too much about yourself. Talk less about yourself.

Problem is you. You are a 3-4 looking for a 6. Doesn’t happen very often. You either need to increase your value or lower your standards…

Ditch the distance thing. Get good at 800/400 and put on some muscle

Tinder is fine if your a Chad.I would really suggest you check out Daddyhunt I am sure you will have much better success there with the older crowd,they just adore skinny young runners.

Running is life. Everything else is noise

It could be just around the corner. I was 21 when I first met someone.

That being said, relationships are not all that they’re made out to be. I wish someone had sat me down and warned me 20 years ago that finding a nice girl, even one that is really into you at first, is going to be a good thing.

Actually, it’s great for a while but then it goes stale. It’s a lot harder to leave at that point, when feelings are bound to get hurt. It’s even worse when you’ve been married for over 10 years and have kids.

If I was 20 years old again, I’d keep doing exactly what you’re doing right now. Date. Hook up. Move on to the next experience. That will fulfill your physical needs.

The other piece is just as important. Find your people. Connect with others through a mutual interest. You like running, that’s good. Do you hang out with other runners? Do you like sports? Make friends around the things you like to do on your free time.

Bottom line. Avoid attachments to other people. There is no such thing as a “healthy” relationship where 2 people (who are bound to change and grow over time) sign a real or implicit contract. Learn to be happy, or at least how to be at peace, by yourself.

prob a communication issue

here's another way you could have written your post

"i live the life of a dedicated athlete, but have a few other long term passions as well like playing the piano and free-diving. i've tried online dating and been fortunate enough to go on a few dates, but the chemistry never seems to be there so i end up back at square one again. i feel like i'm a good person, fun to be around and have a variety of activities i enjoy, but admittedly i'm starting to question myself. what do you think chat, am i doomed or is this normal and i shouldn't sweat it?"

ultimately, as much as people hate to hear it: women instinctually want to make babies that have as many advantages as possible for success out in the real world, and ment want to make babies that will be as physically healthy as possible

consider what helps the odds of success in this world we live in: being tall (looked up to, based on merit or not), being wealthy (can afford whatever challenges life throws your way with the best resources), being physically attractive (duh, doors open that otherwise wouldn't), having above average intelligence (this one should be quite obvious), etc.

so the question's are: how tall are you? what is your net worth? how attractive are you actually? what is your iq?

odds are you are young, broke, not exceptionally tall or attractive and have an iq less than 115

that's normal dude. take the next 10 years to refine your perspective, stay in good shape while your peers do otherwise, build up your net worth, and keep your brain sharp (but not "sharp like a tack"!)

then in your early 30s you're established in your career (that's "safe" which is attractive), already own home (and can afford to sell it and move into a bigger one to start a family when needed), are comfortable in your own skin, put on some muscle but can still break 4:30 on a few weeks notice, and haven't lost 10 iq points like many of your peers that were drunk the entire 20s. then you marry that girl you're currently calling a 9, get some heat for the 10 year age gap but don't gaf, and live happily ever after.

Problem is certainly not "women" so it must be you

You sound like an a**hole tbh, maybe try not being one?

For real.... I think this is a troll post, but if you have to ask yourself if the problem is you or an entire gender.... it's you. If this isn't a troll, this post alone says enough about why women might not want the second date.