How do I just find dudes to run with as a 30 year old?

Look at the results for USATF club XC and find the top-most ranked team that’s local to you.

I don’t want a team I just want friends that run 8 minute pace easy.

Grindr.

Go to your local running club/s' group runs.

Strava. at least that’s what I’ve tried in Charlotte but still have not succeeded lol. I can’t make the 6:30pm run club runs with two toddlers in the house

thats everywhere in society now not just running clubs. try setting up your own club and ban phones.

Try a small town running club. No influencer-types at the club runs I occasionally go to. Most people are over 40. It's chill.

I find runners to follow on Strava by checking the "segment"s in my regular runs. I find runners in my area and can tell who's in my category. Often they're not in any running groups but the segments reveal them.

Yeah, well maybe go a few times, get to know some of the people and they might invite you to other runs outside of the main group.

I went to group runs, didn't really like the vibe with most of them, ended up getting to know a few people, now I mostly run with those people outside of the group run, met other people through those people so for a while most days I had a couple options of with who/where to run.

ban phones? Is this middleschool?

So you're saying to act like an emotionally mature adult? Probably going to get a lot of down votes on this forum...

it's a challenge to find the soul runners these days, but they're out there.....brah...they're out there.

It is really easy. Look to your local running stores, a lot of them have group runs. Show up to a few. Join a local running team or club. They tend to have a lot of great people at a range of abilities. Go run the local 5K and talk to people.

Seriously, this is a great sport for meeting new people.

When I was in college I ran often with a couple of guys in their 30s, and as a guy in his mid-30s now, I don't think it's strange to get in a run with someone in college or just out of it. As long as you can keep up.

I hate to say it but I gave up on this in my city. My wife is involved with a local club and I find the culture utterly unbearable. My college teammates were good to run with until we mostly dispersed/have our own lives and can't fit our schedules together. In my city I find a lot of runners trying to create the HS glory days they never had, psychotic doctors who run 100 miles a week to punish themselves (or something like that) and hobby jogger influencer types who "live for the sport." On the more competitive side there's a ton of drama and jealousy, and on the casual side I find it leans really hard into the instagram running culture world. In my hometown I remember running past the same group of 5-10 adult runners every Sunday morning chatting and plodding along and I really would love to figure out how they all met...