Do your family members care about your running

IMO, find a better girlfriend. I'm sorry your parents don't care. But your significant other should. It will get better:)

Only runners care about running.

I am a pretty mid HS runner (10:10 3K) my parents are very proud of my improvements and come to every race they can.

I've had the exact same thing my entire life. I'm from the UK and a lot of family don't understand why I run, I get told often why I don't spend time doing a proper sport...

I won a moderate sized race near my home town and my dad didn't even come to watch, the only thing he said afterwards was that there were much better runners in his day. Yeah it kinda sucks..but you have to find people involved in running who care about you instead.

I’ve run 100,000 miles since 1977. Raced all over the world. Was on a military team for 8 years running at the Army 10-mile run, was a race director, high school cross country coach, club president and wrote a weekly running column in a pretty big newspaper for 10 years. Every penny I ever made or saved was indirectly made because of my running.

My dad was a high school football and golf coach. He played college football and raised me to be a football and baseball player. 24/7 sports. I never knew sports was supposed to be fun until I left home. He was highly disappointed when I lost interest in the major sports.

After I found my running life he never asked me one thing , ever about my sport…ever. Not one question. Not how I did…. Nothing.

He passed away in 2017 at 96 years old.

That’s pretty sad

Its similar for me, I was a hockey kid and I quit somewhere in HS to focus on running.

He was probably crushed and I do feel bad, but it was the right choice

My dad resents me for it and I will continue to do so.

P.S. I should have added. My dad was a GREAT dad. It didn’t matter to me.

Well, you goofed up and probably deserve the resentment. There isn’t much money in running and it’s a hardscrabble life even for the few for whom there is. You better have good grades and a degree with job prospects, otherwise you are just wasting your time chasing sub-elite PRs that no one cares about, not even your loved ones.

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My family members do not care about my running.

The ones that love me do care. Funny though, caring isn't the same as being happy about it. My grandmother wanted me to stop running so much mileage when I was a kid because she was extremely concerned that it was going to physically harm me. Also, my wife goes through stretches from time to time where she gets upset at me because she feels I am prioritizing my running over family (which I disagree with). My mom, dad and brother, on the other hand, were always positive in their support of my running.

Be that as it may, I’m at a race right now and my girlfriend came happily in support. OP needs to find a better partner for themselves

I am sorry that that bother you so much. For the most part most people don't care about our running. Some are polite and ask a question once awhile but not many are really interested.

That's just how it is.

No

Son, I'm sorry to hear that your family isn't more supportive. I admire what you've achieved so far, and what you're doing. As far as your parents are concerned, it's not likely to change. It's just an unfortunate family dynamic. You seem to understand that there are odd, deep-seated, underlying resentments (the hockey thing). Maybe a little jealousy insofar as your father is concerned, especially if you have achieved more as a runner than he did in his athletic interests.

My sister and I were not athletes, but we had our accomplishments-- personally, professionally. We finally got to a point (much later in life) where we could laugh together at how our mother minimized what we had managed to do. We realized that she was just a pathologically competitive person, and she felt threatened/resentful that we had managed to experienced a little more in life than she did.

Your girlfriend's lack of interest/support is a disappointment as well. If you find that you greatly value and need support from those close to you, you may need to find it with other running acquaintances. If your girlfriend is indifferent to something that is such an important part of your life, it may be for the best that you realize this before your lives get more intertwined.

Good luck with your 1st marathon. Feel free to report back here. Hope you have a great time and a satisfying result.

I get what you are saying, but normal humans care about what our friends and families care about. I am not saying I have to follow my wife and kids every time they take a new interest in something, but if my wife plays in the Seattle Symphony, I can't just say "whatev's!" to the whole world of classical music. If my daughter is playing D1 soccer, I should probably be able to talk to her about the World Cup without yawning.

I care about those people so I also care about what interests them and makes them who they are.

p.s. I think the OP is really deep into the sport. His GF should at a bare minimum want to be there to cheer him on and be with him post-race. It is a cool scene. If she doesn't get that, she might not be the one.

This is the dumbest post I have seen in a while. You think hobbies that are not profitable are a waste of time? What about every other hobby in the world? Or do you just hate running?

The OP never said he was giving up on a career and education to attempt a life as a pro runner. That is not the issue here...

I am sorry to hear that. It also sort of makes the OP point perfectly. It is just sad and it shouldn't be like that.

We should, if we love each other, also genuinely care about each other. The OP isn't asking his family to become runners, he just misses out on the normal support and enthusiasm that most of our wifes and GFs and families give us.