What you need to do is date the woman you eventually marry long enough to know if she's a reasonable person or not. My wife is NEVER irrational and NEVER doesn't make sense. So, to answer your question, the way I deal with that is I married a woman who isn't that way. Do that.
What you need to do is date the woman you eventually marry long enough to know if she's a reasonable person or not. My wife is NEVER irrational and NEVER doesn't make sense. So, to answer your question, the way I deal with that is I married a woman who isn't that way. Do that.
Your advice is solid. But I’m calling BS on your statement that your wife is never irrational.
Never met any woman that does not get emotional. And when we are emotional we are irrational.
I'm not married but have had a few long term relationships now. Something I've really struggled with is when my gf is mad and upset but isn't really making sense or being rational and isn't responding to reason. I don't feel like I ever really worked out what to do or how to handle these situations very well.
Longtime married men, how do you deal with this? Is there a good solution? Does your lady ever comeback later on and recognize she wasn't making sense?
If you have the temperament to just recognize the situation and just take whatever unwarranted things she has to say, best to just do that. If you don't respond much, she will lose interest in the topic. If you don't, and you feel the need to defend yourself and fight back, do so realizing you can't win a rational fight with a person acting irrationally.
If you want a real long term relationship, like 50 years long, you need to able to recognize the moments where you just need to say to yourself, "This too shall pass".
This.
Also it's often easier to accept flaws when married than dating.
What you need to do is date the woman you eventually marry long enough to know if she's a reasonable person or not. My wife is NEVER irrational and NEVER doesn't make sense. So, to answer your question, the way I deal with that is I married a woman who isn't that way. Do that.
Your advice is solid. But I’m calling BS on your statement that your wife is never irrational.
Never met any woman that does not get emotional. And when we are emotional we are irrational.
All people (men and women) will at some point show some irrationality. Hopefully you find the type of person that isn't irrational too often at all.
Jokes about domestic violence go undeleted on this message board? Real great discussion you have going on on this board, Brojos. Where dreams become reality! You should be proud!
if you love her and her moment of being irrational are not excessive, you just ignore it and in a few days you will forget it happened. really nothing to be gained by trying to "reason" your way out of the situation with an irrational emotional female. most women are simply just hyper emotional and let emotions dictate actions vs reason/logic that males revert to.
just ignore it. move on.
if its an everyday thing then you have issues and should try to not marry.
Figure out what she's looking for when she's acting this way and then try your best to give it to her without completely dissolving your boundaries. Is she anxious or frustrated about the situation and just needs reassurance or space to cool off? Is she trying to get a reaction out of you as reassurance that you care about her? Trying to win by using logic to show her the truth in order to change her behavior and fix the problem unfortunately is a losing strategy - this may work for most guys, but it won't for most women.