I'm not married but have had a few long term relationships now. Something I've really struggled with is when my gf is mad and upset but isn't really making sense or being rational and isn't responding to reason. I don't feel like I ever really worked out what to do or how to handle these situations very well.
Longtime married men, how do you deal with this? Is there a good solution? Does your lady ever comeback later on and recognize she wasn't making sense?
I'm not married but have had a few long term relationships now. Something I've really struggled with is when my gf is mad and upset but isn't really making sense or being rational and isn't responding to reason. I don't feel like I ever really worked out what to do or how to handle these situations very well.
Longtime married men, how do you deal with this? Is there a good solution? Does your lady ever comeback later on and recognize she wasn't making sense?
If you have the temperament to just recognize the situation and just take whatever unwarranted things she has to say, best to just do that. If you don't respond much, she will lose interest in the topic. If you don't, and you feel the need to defend yourself and fight back, do so realizing you can't win a rational fight with a person acting irrationally.
If you want a real long term relationship, like 50 years long, you need to able to recognize the moments where you just need to say to yourself, "This too shall pass".
I'm not married but have had a few long term relationships now. Something I've really struggled with is when my gf is mad and upset but isn't really making sense or being rational and isn't responding to reason. I don't feel like I ever really worked out what to do or how to handle these situations very well.
Longtime married men, how do you deal with this? Is there a good solution? Does your lady ever comeback later on and recognize she wasn't making sense?
If you have the temperament to just recognize the situation and just take whatever unwarranted things she has to say, best to just do that. If you don't respond much, she will lose interest in the topic. If you don't, and you feel the need to defend yourself and fight back, do so realizing you can't win a rational fight with a person acting irrationally.
If you want a real long term relationship, like 50 years long, you need to able to recognize the moments where you just need to say to yourself, "This too shall pass".
That's mostly what I've done. I will say I struggle with letting things go sometimes though... I have a very good memory, and so if situations like this happen very often, it's easy for me to just think about them a lot and dwell on how I'm with someone who doesn't make sense a lot of the time. Once in a blue moon is fine, but I really struggle when someone is irrational frequently.
If you have the temperament to just recognize the situation and just take whatever unwarranted things she has to say, best to just do that. If you don't respond much, she will lose interest in the topic. If you don't, and you feel the need to defend yourself and fight back, do so realizing you can't win a rational fight with a person acting irrationally.
If you want a real long term relationship, like 50 years long, you need to able to recognize the moments where you just need to say to yourself, "This too shall pass".
That's mostly what I've done. I will say I struggle with letting things go sometimes though... I have a very good memory, and so if situations like this happen very often, it's easy for me to just think about them a lot and dwell on how I'm with someone who doesn't make sense a lot of the time. Once in a blue moon is fine, but I really struggle when someone is irrational frequently.
I appreciate the advice.
All women have a little dictator in their hearts. If hers is that mental that you can’t respect her anymore, cut your losses now.
Can you give some examples? This is quite vague. There's a big difference between a disagreement over not making sense over e.g. forgetting the price of a chocolate bar versus not making sense over some important issue??
I'm not married but have had a few long term relationships now. Something I've really struggled with is when my gf is mad and upset but isn't really making sense or being rational and isn't responding to reason. I don't feel like I ever really worked out what to do or how to handle these situations very well.
Longtime married men, how do you deal with this? Is there a good solution? Does your lady ever comeback later on and recognize she wasn't making sense?
If you don't understand another person's POV does make someone "irrational" or not "making sense."
The way you frame the question sounds like you blame the other person. How about starting with a general, how do you handle disagreements?