If they don't show up to several practices - barring injury - its time to have a talk with them about what their priorities are. If after this, they still don't prioritize the team, its time to let their spot go to someone else.
If they are causing harm to another member of the team including harassment, its probably time to kick them off.
If there is a conflict with your coaching and you can't accommodate how an athlete thinks he or she wants to train I wouldn't kick them off in hs, but in college I might.
I kinda always did three strikes and your out but kids make mistakes to so them owning it and apologize etc goes a long way. Depends what it is of course but is it something covered in the schools policies or you team handout? If you already had standards set for everyone from attendance to behavior etc you need to be consistent and follow thru.
You can forgive someone while also acknowledging that your team is better off without them. You don't have to hold resentment toward someone to make a logical decision to terminate your association with them for the good of the rest of the group.
Let’s say high school. Let me be clear I’m not kicking anyone off my time right now, not in a position to do that. But I might be someday. I’m interested in what other people’s red lines are beyond the obvious infractions that everyone knows would result in dismissal. I mean we all know that if coach catches you selling amphetamines to teammates before the dual meet, ya gotta go.
But what about less obvious instances? If a kid is extremely talented but lazy and this prompts other kids to laziness? A older kid is always giving the younger ones a hard time, making it hard for the younger ones to thrive?
You can forgive someone while also acknowledging that your team is better off without them. You don't have to hold resentment toward someone to make a logical decision to terminate your association with them for the good of the rest of the group.
Yea but think about them and how it affects them and not yourself first
When they get a tattoo. When they wear a Che Guevara T-shirt.
When they have rainbows on their running shoes.
When they use foul language repeatedly.
When they disrespect God, Country, or fellow teammates.
Other than possibly disrespecting teammates this is a good list to get the coach fired and the school sued. Assuming it's a real school and not some bible academy masquerading as an institute of higher learning.
What I used to do, and it was rare, suspend the kid for a week. It gives the athlete time to decide whether or not he really wants to be part of the team. Young athletes, especially the boys, are impetuous and sometimes need time to reflect on their behaviour. I only had one kid not come back and he wound up being one of those Goth kids. (Our school was one of those a few years behind the times. The seventies didn't happen until 1986)
What I used to do, and it was rare, suspend the kid for a week. It gives the athlete time to decide whether or not he really wants to be part of the team. Young athletes, especially the boys, are impetuous and sometimes need time to reflect on their behaviour. I only had one kid not come back and he wound up being one of those Goth kids. (Our school was one of those a few years behind the times. The seventies didn't happen until 1986)
Suspensions are not a bad idea. Gives the kid time to think about what it’s like away from the team.
Unfortunately it depends how fast they are. We had a couple of locker room cancers but couldn't kick them off as they were some of the best (one sprinter, one distance) in the state. For someone that's not state champion level though, disrespect, constantly showing up late, or being toxic to teammates is that.
At my school, I am unfortunately not allowed to kick anyone off the team due to mandatory sport requirements. It makes it impossible to build a positive team culture when you have a large population of kids who have no desire to be there and the only recourse you have is throw them in detention (which is great cause it gets them out of practice). Taking away competition in meets is also a reward to these type of athletes. Complete nightmare and has ruined my love of the sport and coaching it!