My cousin got engaged to a girl from Thailand. I’m starting to feel concerned…

Advise your cuz to get a pre-nup. After that just smile and support.

I think it's the Thai girl's family who should be worried about a 28-yr old American who's never had a date...

Impossible question to answer without knowing the girl. Some thais are bad, some are good. same as any country.

Ask where he met her. If in a bar in pattaya, big red flag.

His work officially arranges Thai mail-order brides? 0/10

If he met her thru work program, she probably has a visa to Europe, so that is a start. Can be a good indicator that she comes from a wealthier family.

If the work program was during the day, and she was the evening entertainment then not so sure.

Many Americans, who marry Thai, do a civil marriage first to get visa easier and start the citizenship clock going. Then a church ceremony in US with family.

The stereotype on Thai is they are actually great partners, loyal, hard working and affectionate through even the toughest times. Often it's Eastern Europeans and latinas looking for the easy green card.

Don't be jelly. You can fly to Thailand and find your own ladyboy too.

Correct. That's where I found mine.

The fact that he has never had a girlfriend makes me less concerned.

It’s common for guys who are socially awkward to marry foreign women who either can’t tell that they are perceived as weird or don’t care.

It's your cousin. Not your dad or brother. No big deal

Scandinavia, British Isles, Baltic States, Russia, etc. were conquered by the Huns from Xiongnu in 200 A.D. So we're 1/2 Asian blooded anyways. No big deal.

There's nothing you can do. He'll learn his lesson

1. Is this the second cousin thread again?

2. If not, have her fly to Mexico then walk into the US with the thousands of Chinese.

100% ya, he's being scammed

Not sure what you can do

I would make sure to have him talk to both immigration attorney and then most importantly an estate attorney about a pre nuptial agreement because in some states you can get screwed badly financially if it doesn’t work out

for example, some states she could get half without some sort of pre nuptial agreement , while in other states it might be half of the appreciation of assets brought into the marriage. It all depends on the state laws, which is why talking to an estate attorney ahead of time is key

We need an expert! Is Jason Meyeroff still around?

I‘ve spent some time in Thailand — not long enough to make me an expert in any way, but enough to have an opinion. My opinion is this:

I‘ve been told by expats who speak decent Thai but are still Westerners, that it‘s been next to impossible to meet (and date) a decent, respectable Thai woman. The Thai woman who are moral and from good families would only spend time with a man who was known by her friends, family and community—meaning generally, Thai men, or at least Asian men.

On the other hand, I‘ve seen American men who meet a woman in Thailand (who they likely met through a bar) and married her, and she moved to America to be his wife. My sense is that the woman is dutiful and functions as an agreeable wife, in tacit exchange for the man supporting her family financially as much as he can.

My overwhelming perception of Thai woman who agree to marry a western man is that they go along with a ton of the things that their Western husbands want, but they never really get to be themselves. I also think the majority of Thai women who enter into this arrangement are LONELY in America.

In any event, what are you really going to say to this guy that is going to change anything? I would say, just watch and see how it plays out, because there is no other move here.

There was an awesome book (fiction) called Private Dancer, by Stephen Leather. Expats living in Thailand found this book to ring very true. Read it! (just for fun, it still won‘t change the guy‘s opinion about who to marry or not). It looks low budget, but was a really good read.

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