The answer is to grab another beer when she says it’s time to go. Just tell her to let you know when you’re heading to the car. I’ve been married 20 years and it took me 15 to figure this out. It’s a win/win.
The answer is to grab another beer when she says it’s time to go. Just tell her to let you know when you’re heading to the car. I’ve been married 20 years and it took me 15 to figure this out. It’s a win/win.
Sounds like this poster is drinking and driving so wouldn’t follow this fellas advice. Try to find healthy ways to cope with it rather than numbing with booze and drugs OP. Meditation in the car for a bit works.
While we are on the subject why does it take 2+ hours to get ready to go anywhere. And we are always way late.
WTF?
if it takes 2+ hours to get ready, how about getting ready 3-4 hours before we leave instead of 45 minutes?
it’s simple freaking math.
If I even hint at irritation, annoyance over this it becomes a huge crisis and further ruins whatever event we are attending.
Am I the only one?
I can top this.
Packing for a trip is always procrastinated until about 11pm the night before departure, even if the departure involves a 6am flight. "Packing" involves about 2 hours of "does this outfit make me look fat?", followed by "do these shoes look good?", "do you have any room in your bag?", etc, etc... and I end up driving to the airport on one hour of sleep while she sacks out in the passenger seat.
Just redefine in your mind what your wife's "ready" is. For her maybe it's a chance to connect a bit deeper with people and she doesn't quite know how to communicate that with you.
If you know it's gonna be an hour every time. At least it's consistent. And you can continue to chat with other people there until she's ready.
Separate vehicle suggestion is ok too I think. Independence in relationships can be a nice thing. You don't have to function the same way, and in fact quirks might annoy each other. But could be avoided with a simple mindset change as this. And you won't resent her as much for this habit she has.
Anyone else deal with this? Eventually I just walk out to car for a while. Then come back in, “ok, ready”? Then another 10 minutes. Probably 45-60 minutes from the time she first said she was ok to go.
What has this post have to do with running? This thread should be deleted too. Letsrun isn't Ann Landers
While we are on the subject why does it take 2+ hours to get ready to go anywhere. And we are always way late.
WTF?
if it takes 2+ hours to get ready, how about getting ready 3-4 hours before we leave instead of 45 minutes?
it’s simple freaking math.
If I even hint at irritation, annoyance over this it becomes a huge crisis and further ruins whatever event we are attending.
Am I the only one?
I can top this.
Packing for a trip is always procrastinated until about 11pm the night before departure, even if the departure involves a 6am flight. "Packing" involves about 2 hours of "does this outfit make me look fat?", followed by "do these shoes look good?", "do you have any room in your bag?", etc, etc... and I end up driving to the airport on one hour of sleep while she sacks out in the passenger seat.
Are you married to my wife?
My wife does the same thing. And I tell her. "Hey honey, don't you think it maybe it would be good to start packing for this huge trip we have been planning for because we are leaving in a matter of hours"? Wife: "Don't worry. It takes me 5 minutes to pack."
WTF? No it doesn't?
Here is my psychoanalysis of what the problem is. To us guys, going to an event or on a vacation requires zero thought process or energy fretting over what to wear or what to bring. And we care even less what we look like To women, this is a big deal. What to wear, etc, etc. And because it is a big deal with upcoming stress they procrastinate.
While we are on the subject why does it take 2+ hours to get ready to go anywhere. And we are always way late.
WTF?
if it takes 2+ hours to get ready, how about getting ready 3-4 hours before we leave instead of 45 minutes?
it’s simple freaking math.
If I even hint at irritation, annoyance over this it becomes a huge crisis and further ruins whatever event we are attending.
Am I the only one?
The same for me in my 15-year marriage (now divorced). One Thanksgiving we arrived at her sister's over 3 hours late for dinner. My ex was pissed they didn't wait for us to start eating. Another year we were going to the in-laws for xmas and 5 minutes before we were supposed to leave she decided to decorate the entire tree.
I always made the flight arrangements when we traveled and would tell her that the flight was scheduled well over an hour earlier than the actual time. And then we would still barely make the flight.
Sit her down and have her watch the "Maltese Falcon." When Gutman says to Spade, "Well, Sir. The shortest farewells are the best, adieu," tell her that her lengthy farewells are probably as tortuous to her friends as they are to you. It may not go over good at the moment, but it may give her food for thought.
Anyone else deal with this? Eventually I just walk out to car for a while. Then come back in, “ok, ready”? Then another 10 minutes. Probably 45-60 minutes from the time she first said she was ok to go.
Same with my wife, except the 45 minutes is more like 2-3 hours. I love the idea of taking separate cars, but this won't work in my situation because the issue is my wife drinks too much and has no way of getting home. So I end up sticking around waiting for hours as the designated driver.
We're usually the last to leave at most parties and I hate it. It's gotten to the point where I'm likely going to start refusing to go to any parties with her. Whenever I tell her what the problem is, she says something like "I won't drink much tonight" but then her plan falls apart and I'm stuck lingering. Rinse and repeat.
Packing for a trip is always procrastinated until about 11pm the night before departure, even if the departure involves a 6am flight. "Packing" involves about 2 hours of "does this outfit make me look fat?", followed by "do these shoes look good?", "do you have any room in your bag?", etc, etc... and I end up driving to the airport on one hour of sleep while she sacks out in the passenger seat.
Are you married to my wife?
My wife does the same thing. And I tell her. "Hey honey, don't you think it maybe it would be good to start packing for this huge trip we have been planning for because we are leaving in a matter of hours"? Wife: "Don't worry. It takes me 5 minutes to pack."
WTF? No it doesn't?
Here is my psychoanalysis of what the problem is. To us guys, going to an event or on a vacation requires zero thought process or energy fretting over what to wear or what to bring. And we care even less what we look like To women, this is a big deal. What to wear, etc, etc. And because it is a big deal with upcoming stress they procrastinate.