Is it embarrassing to marry a much younger woman if you are an old man?

She will either leave you or cheat. I do know someone who pulled off a similar feet but he’s a billionaire

Does she call you granddaddy in bed? (Assuming the little blue pill worked that night)

Just plain stupid to do that.

Its tough. The nice way to put this that she craves financial/emotional security.

My Dad did this type of marriage and I got over his marrying for his ego and her marrying for the money. They were both unhappy deep down.

When Dad died, he left a messy estate and she is still struggling to clean it up.

I don't think he really loved her as she is dealing with one lien after another, all which could have been avoided if he planned and cared about her.

Thank you for the serious answer.

So when she’s 45 and in the prime of her life, you expect her to push your decrepit 81 year old ass around in a wheelchair and clean your diaper?

I hope she gets quite an inheritance

Good for the man if he's happy and for the woman it's probably embarrassing but perhaps she's in a desperate place/has mental or emotional problems or fell for the first man who pampered her. But again, for the man it can be great. He will get flack from people but the truth is a lot of them are jealous. There's a lot of miserable people out there looking to criticize people who are happy.

What age do strangers typically guess that you are?

He's gonna need shoulder surgery from all of the high fives he gets at the country club and pickleball league!

It would only be embarrassing if you were marrying her for an embarrassing reason. If you are marrying each other for good reasons there is nothing to be embarrassed about.
You should also be too old to care about other people’s opinions about something so pivotal to your happiness. Or some good natured joking either. Own it. Laugh at the jokes as long as they are good natured and don’t put up with any negative, judgemental bs either. It will mostly be coming from a place of envy or jealousy anyway, for men. Or unhappy, b1tchy women looking for some reason to b1tch and gossip.

All the best to you and your future wife. Hope it works out excellently for you.

He might be happy but everyone will think he's a creep.

29 for a woman is kind of like 59 for a man - the age where you start wondering how much time you have left sexually.

The difference between 20 and 30 is huge. The flower blooms gloriously for a few years. A fading flower has far less appeal.

That's exactly what the miserable/jealous people will label him but secretly a lot of them would go for it if they were in the same position, just too incapable--not rich or game with the ladies or they're stuck in a miserable relationship they pretend to like.

No!

Who gives a sh*t what other people think.

If you and your wife are happy, willing adults - then why would you be embarrassed by a ridiculous social convention that's only proliferated by small-minded people who immiserate themselves by adherence to such nonsense.

You should be embarrassed for the people that tease you, as this is clearly a manifestation of their jealousy.

You know a billionaire who pulled off someone's feet?

He must be pretty strong. That narrows it down a bit.

I'd be ok with it until the first "she's not my daughter, she's my wife" incident.

Too big of a gap. Sweet spot is 5-10years gap. 20max. 37 is just too much

Cue the hate from dudes stuck with post menopausal overweight older wives. It's nothing more than jealousy and envy.

Which third world country is she from? Have you met in person yet?

Alternatively, whats wrong with her that she can't find a man, other than one from a demographic that would usually be a grandfather to her, giving her wise advice on how ro about making mistakes in her life?

I've only seen it the other way around - a guy I know married a woman 21 years older than him. He is a particularly cowardly type of guy who likes to have a mother figure in the background looking after him while he flirts with women nearer his own age, on the premises that he must be "lonely" by having such an older spouse. Increasingly, I believe he cheats in his wife, and she tolerates it because she's old and just wants companionship. They married 2 years ago.

Is that what you want?