Hey, Herbert. Are you so lonely and unstimulated in life that you have to copy-and-paste today's "Ask Amy" column on a running message board just so that you get the validation of other people acknowledging your existence? Or are you that same loser guy who wrote to "Ask Amy," cross-posting here to get equally worthless advice from a bunch of misanthropic malcontents?
I found out today that my wife was sexting with a man in another state. His girlfriend sent me a message, which included a series of screenshots. I had confronted my wife regarding this prior to receiving the messages, but she swore she had sent only ONE topless photo and nothing else. After I reviewed the messages, I saw much more. She claims “she doesn’t remember everything,” which I find hard to believe. Worse, they had planned to meet. She claims she didn’t, but I saw a message saying that once I went back home (we were visiting her parents), she would stay an extra week with our son so he could “spend more time with the grandparents” — and she could manoeuvre to meet up with him. She claims she didn’t, but I can’t believe her based upon her lying repeatedly about this. We have a child together, so I don’t want to walk away, but I’m deeply hurt and no longer trust her. I know you will recommend marriage counselling, but beyond that process, is there anything I should do?
I have some experience in this realm. The information that I have gotten everything under the infidelity umbrella is that you absolutely have to both get counseling from professionals who specialize in this stuff if the marriage is to survive. I know there are some couples who can blow this stuff off and not be super affected by it, but the normal case is that it creates a wound, feelings change, and the marriage slowly deteriorates over the next 1-3 years and then it's divorce. It depends on how bothered you are by this, but, I would strongly suggest you at the very least start watching youtube videos on this subject by professionals. You need to figure out why it happened. And not trying to make anything worse, but if your wife doesn't get counseling, it's only a matter of time before something like this happens again, probably more, but you might not be aware of it next time.
Sorry man. Best of luck to you.
If the OP is bothered by this, it’s a HIM problem, not a problem with his wife.
All wives do this. All husbands do this. It’s not worth splitting up for. If it is, then you never had live in the first place.
Your wife is for the streets but you can either decide to be a simp to her amd suffer or be a man because it ain't nothing to cut that B off.
Other option is to stay with her but be laying pipe to other women in the meantime in secrecy to get your revenge on that cheater. It ain't cheating if she cheats first.
Hey, Herbert. Are you so lonely and unstimulated in life that you have to copy-and-paste today's "Ask Amy" column on a running message board just so that you get the validation of other people acknowledging your existence? Or are you that same loser guy who wrote to "Ask Amy," cross-posting here to get equally worthless advice from a bunch of misanthropic malcontents?
HEY... if you are gonna call him out on the plagiarism the least you could do is post ABBY's answer. Geesh-
"DEAR LOST: Has your wife always been this way, or is this behavior something new? She seems to be severely allergic to the truth. By all means, attempt marriage counseling if she is willing. However, if she isn't willing, have some counseling without her. And start interviewing attorneys to represent you in what is likely to be a divorce. Without trust, there can be no marriage. P.S. Save those messages and images the girlfriend sent you because they could come in handy."
Hey Abby... is that a masturbation joke at the end? " the images....could come in handy"? 😆
I found out today that my wife was sexting with a man in another state. His girlfriend sent me a message, which included a series of screenshots. I had confronted my wife regarding this prior to receiving the messages, but she swore she had sent only ONE topless photo and nothing else. After I reviewed the messages, I saw much more. She claims “she doesn’t remember everything,” which I find hard to believe. Worse, they had planned to meet. She claims she didn’t, but I saw a message saying that once I went back home (we were visiting her parents), she would stay an extra week with our son so he could “spend more time with the grandparents” — and she could manoeuvre to meet up with him. She claims she didn’t, but I can’t believe her based upon her lying repeatedly about this. We have a child together, so I don’t want to walk away, but I’m deeply hurt and no longer trust her. I know you will recommend marriage counselling, but beyond that process, is there anything I should do?
fyi... I got the bottomless photos from a # of angles. VERY nice, and if you weren't paying enough attention to that sweetness before, take this as a your wake up call. Nothing at all wrong with being a voyeur either, if you prefer to watch.