My gf has a victim mentality... what to do?

Id have dumped her a long time ago but definitely as soon as she posted that insta post claiming the flight attendant jumped in her video after SHE turned it on HIM. SMH.

Have you tried whitesplaining things to her?

On the bright side, at least she's still swimming in cash from her sale of Picky Bars.

She's looking forward to divorcing you and telling everybody you were abusive.

Send her to prison camp

You will never get through to her in this regard. That’s just her personality and it’s not your place to change her. Why are you still in this relationship? Convenience? Find someone else without those traits.

Yup, get out

Maybe have lollipops on hand and give her one next time she’s moping? It works with children.

Victim mentality is learned and taught. Her family did this to her. She probably had self-defeating attitudes and behavior modeled for her and that is now the lens through which she sees the world. People like this need to work hard at something difficult and see it through until victory. Until they are able to do this at least once, they live their entire life in victimhood. These people feel an enormous sense of powerlessness.

It's hard for people like this to be self-aware of this if it's so natural to them. Maybe you can take the approach of helping her set some goal and become a victor, not victim. Perhaps that could open her eyes.

... if she's worth it...

If she's truly like this, then you're relationship is on borrowed time at the moment. If she constantly believes she is the victim of her circumstances, doesn't take responsibility, and is not resilient to even the most minor of inconveniences then it's only a matter of time before she believes that you're the problem in her life and will turn against you.

Are you dating an m@m

ey yo! This is my type! she looking to smash or what? What's her @? Just take her to pound town and chil

Just nod along and say "wow, that's crazy" until you find somebody else.

Dear OP,

My advice- Run. Don't look back. I dated a girl who was almost exactly what you described. She never changed. I wasted 3 years of my life. Her "woe is me" mentallity spilled into "nobody likes me". It never ended. And, when I broke up, it was not a good scene. Cursing, yelling, and calling me names. Her family gave me dirty looks when they saw me for years. I can only imagine what she told them.

For your own sanity, run. You'll thank me later.

People have already said GET OUT.

I say do it as SOON AS POSSIBLE.

You only get one life, and you are currently wasting it with a delusional child.

OP...Dude, I would drop her like a bad habit.

That kind of attitude is bad news, and it is not likely to change. What a miserable existence you would have if you married that. She gone.

You should be honest with her. "You have a victim mentality and you constantly act like a whiny baby." I know it seems counter-intuitive, but if you deliver this constructive feedback as an alphamale (that is, bluntly and not tip-toeing around her feelings), it will make a genuine impact and cause her to seriously reflect.

100% don't try to change her. You either like her and her behavior or not. Just be honest with yourself. You don't own her anything. Always do your own part best as you can.