How important is quality of sex in choosing a long term partner? (Serious)

It’s very important.

I think finding a nice partner with agreeable qualities is more important. Find someone who has many friends and has a great reputation. As you age your sex drive will drop slowly and soon enough your partner needs to have qualities such as integrity, honesty, good natured, humor, etc. I’d say as long as you’re above a 5/10 and the other qualities match, think seriously about it.

Good sex kinda means that they can loosen up and share intense personal moments together right? Or they are simply skilled at it.

Oh forgot to say. Married man aged 35 here. Sex drive has slowly dropped each year since hitting puberty. it is still important but perhaps 1/10 as important as when I was 18. will it ever get to 1/100 as important as 18? Probably

Let me ask a fundamental question. Why have sex at all before marriage? Is “sexual compatibility” some amorphous, undefinable quality that a couple either has or doesn’t? I would argue no. “Sexual compatibility” is nothing more than a man and a woman in a loving married relationship, committed to pleasing one another, who become better at that over time. There is no need to “test the waters” or “kick the tires.” If your wife loves you and you love her selflessly, you will learn to love one other physically.

Married in my 50’s. Drive is still firing at close to 100%. Being compatible sex partners is very important. You also need to find someone that you can laugh with and has similar interests. Do not downplay good sex although most friends my age have wives that rarely have sex with them.

I wish I lived in the world you live in. By the way, are you even married?

With the gamble known as marriage--as a man, you can never be sure if your sexual compatibility with your partner will last.

The post nuptial shutoff proves this. Once the woman handcuffs the man via marriage, she's fair game to cut him off from sex. She's got the security she wants (either a man's financial help or she's guaranteed half the assets of both combined if divorvced) , unless there's extenuating circumstances such as a pre-nup, but those are difficult to convince a woman to sign.

I don’t know since I haven’t been in a long term one. However (since I’m a college student), it plays a very big role in deciding if I want to hook up again or if I’ll ghost her and hop back onto Tinder.

Good sex is about a lot more than getting your rocks off, so maybe listen to your gut on this one. It’s not a deal breaker and you can definitely improve it over time, but pay attention to reasons you might not think the quality is high.

Likewise, hot sex is not necessarily of relationship longevity. Per the same seasons as above.

The ones who get married and cheat on their spouse are the greediest pigs of all. Oink oink. Using the benefits of a relationship and being single. Wow that's pretty lame. Call me a degenerate F boy all you want,(because you're jealous my kill count is astronomical and your sex life sucks) at least I do not cheat on my girl/spouse/kids/family.

32 years old and been married 7 years so idk everything but realize that you're going to spend like 1% of your life with that person having sex and 99% on everything else. Gotta have someone with mutual respect and trust, because even great sex will disappear fast if that is lacking. Spouse is someone I'm genuinely attracted to, and the sex took like 4 years to get really good, it was frustrating at times until then. Because everything else is so great though it allowed the time for us to build and develop that and it actually does keep getting better for us. Ymmv of course but that's one guy's experience.

How much more physically attractive was your ex?

Indeed I am, almost a quarter century.

Like 9000%. You will be hittin that sh*t for the rest of your life!

For real.....

Hardly. Some people just plain suck at sex.

Why not?

Yes, it’s very, very important. Until it’s not. Then it is not important at all.