39 Married 12 years, never strayed. My tennis instructor is female giving me the eyes constantly.
It’s like a box of matches, just needs a strike. I can sense it.
About to completely kill my membership and find a new club. Waters getting too warm, don’t trust myself.
Are you really seeking advice about that from an on-line running forum?
Next time you see her say love-love and wait for her response. If she says you cannot be serious then you have it go for it.
She gave you her eyes?!?
My gawd!
Find a new club or start humping.
Shouldn't an instructor be watching to see how you hit the ball?
She must have no eyes if she's interested in you.
It’s her livelihood she’s just being cordial and since you’ve been married for like 12 years it’s been a long time since there was banter. No pro is going to cheat with a 3.0 or 3.5 player. If you were at her level you’d know she’s being nice or going through the motions “good job!”
What does she look like? I’m hoping she’s a beauty. Like Kournikova type of looks? The female tennis pros out here all look like men and they are man haters for the most part. They’re more into dogs.
Is this a stand alone tennis club, or part of a golf club? And are you a member?
I can’t speak for stand alone tennis clubs, those cater to a possibly poorer demographic, but at every golf club I’ve been affiliated with, it’s customary to tip your golf or tennis instructor.
So the question is: when you’re sitting at a bar and the attractive bartendress starts making eyes at you, do you think she’s trying to get you to leave your wife or to get an extra 10% tip out of you? Your answer to this question says a lot about your personality.
I think this is where you take a cue from what most married women would do in this situation. Wear your wedding ring consistently and dismiss any flirting that you sense goes beyond normal, friendly banter during a lesson. If necessary, find opportunities to bring up your wife in conversation. If you are still convinced she's flirting with you, find another instructor.
I'll have a steak sandwich, and a steak sandwich.
not Dr. Phil wrote:
I think this is where you take a cue from what most married women would do in this situation. Wear your wedding ring consistently and dismiss any flirting that you sense goes beyond normal, friendly banter during a lesson. If necessary, find opportunities to bring up your wife in conversation. If you are still convinced she's flirting with you, find another instructor.
ya its pretty simple dude.
Rich Country Club Member wrote:
Is this a stand alone tennis club, or part of a golf club? And are you a member?
I can’t speak for stand alone tennis clubs, those cater to a possibly poorer demographic, but at every golf club I’ve been affiliated with, it’s customary to tip your golf or tennis instructor.
So the question is: when you’re sitting at a bar and the attractive bartendress starts making eyes at you, do you think she’s trying to get you to leave your wife or to get an extra 10% tip out of you? Your answer to this question says a lot about your personality.
I get what you're saying, but you just need situational and self awareness. It's like when me and my buddy would go into a strip club. All the guys sitting in sniffers row were total losers, but we sat there kind of as a joke. The chick could tell we were cool, not like those other guys, and totally seemed into us. No doubt we could have taken her home. Just gotta have that awareness...
Jagman wrote:
39 Married 12 years, never strayed. My tennis instructor is female giving me the eyes constantly.
It’s like a box of matches, just needs a strike. I can sense it.
About to completely kill my membership and find a new club. Waters getting too warm, don’t trust myself.
Summary: You sense the instructor was born male and are not sure how to deal with your feelings.
Recommendation: Take up a new sport and tune down the gaydar, Nancy.
She wants to give you a me free lesson's, you might learn something new..
Go for the free Ride.
Same thing my University PH.D (female) did to me.
Have fun and Good luck.
That you felt necessary to mention she is female a couple different times tells me a lot about your insecurities.
Never hook up with a tennis player...
love means nothing to them.
Why do you have a tennis instructor?