We matched on tinder. Talked a good bit. Got her number and asked for a date. She agreed but said I should pay for her sitter. I have no kids and have been out of the dating game for a while. Is this a thing? I pushed back to her and she said it was common for her dates to do that. I don’t feel comfortable doing that and I think it’s a bit much
Take her out for a nice dinner. Tell her you forgot your wallet and havve to go to your house to get it. Go back to her house and bang the babysitter. Drop out of Tinder and go on your way.
Tell us you don’t have a date without telling us you don’t have a date.
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I have no idea whether it’s a thing, but this potential match is dead on arrival if you don’t. Act lack a man that will care about her kid if you want to get her interest. Otherwise only date women without kids.
As I think about it, she might be using paying for a sitter as a filter.
I would absolutely not do that and cancel the date.
Unless of course she’s really, really good looking.
If I were single and matching with single moms on tinder I would for sure pay for the sitter.
John Wesley Harding wrote:
I would absolutely not do that and cancel the date.
Unless of course she’s really, really good looking.
This^
It's like dipping your feet in the ocean without going far enough in to get attacked by sharks.
This is the tip of the iceberg if you are looking for a relationship out of this unless you have a ton of disposable income.
Here's the great thing about this fake date - you don't have to agree to the terms if you don't want to.
Alsksk wrote:
I have no idea whether it’s a thing, but this potential match is dead on arrival if you don’t. Act lack a man that will care about her kid if you want to get her interest. Otherwise only date women without kids.
As I think about it, she might be using paying for a sitter as a filter.
Aka a test. That’s not okay. That behavior is toxic
She's probably using you to pay for her sitter so she can ghost you and go out on a date with the guy she really wants to bang.
To save yourself some money, you take a page out of the Mrs. Doubtfire script. Dress up as an old women, then pretend to be your date's babysitter. On your date, you take multiple trips to the bathroom (tell her you ate some bad taco's that day), then sneak out the bathroom window, change into your old women costume and go check on the crotch goblin. Voila, you just saved yourself $50.
How much does she want for the babysitter? I would take a hard pass. This is not a normal thing as I am a divorced dad and was back in the dating pool for a few years until I settled in with a great gal. If the first few dates go well, I would then offer to pay for a sitter to free up more time for her to go out. But for a first date, no. Big red flag. While a guy should pay for most of the dating expenses, especially a first date, this goes beyond buying lunch or dinner, a movie, etc. She is likely looking for someone to pay all her expenses.
Idea: 3/10
Execution: 0/10
If you're bored enough to make fake posts, at least take the time to make them entertaining.
Common for her dates to do that. I would run the other way as fast as posters on here claim to run.
Alsksk wrote:
I have no idea whether it’s a thing, but this potential match is dead on arrival if you don’t. Act lack a man that will care about her kid if you want to get her interest. Otherwise only date women without kids.
As I think about it, she might be using paying for a sitter as a filter.
She's using paying for a sitter as a way to get to go out for a night without paying for a sitter.
Let it Rupp wrote:
To save yourself some money, you take a page out of the Mrs. Doubtfire script. Dress up as an old women, then pretend to be your date's babysitter. On your date, you take multiple trips to the bathroom (tell her you ate some bad taco's that day), then sneak out the bathroom window, change into your old women costume and go check on the crotch goblin. Voila, you just saved yourself $50.
Dress up as an old women? Isn't one woman enough?
I have found that in general, it's best to split things on tinder first dates. However, in the case of a single mother who has to pay for a babysitter or who is very busy or whatever, I usually pay for her and mention the fact that she had to pay for a babysitter as the reason. I also don't do expensive first dates though because first dates often lead nowhere.
The challenge/tightrope we men have to walk is to show women that we are capable of paying but to communicate that it's not simply a given and that we're not going to be a pushover with money. I've gotten to a place in my life and career where I'm actually doing very well and could blow a fair amount of money on dates without thinking much about it, but I have found you have more luck when you make women work for it some and don't let them assume you're always paying. Plus, if a woman is the type who expects you to always pay for everything, you don't want to be with someone like that anyway, and this strategy will quickly weed those ones out.
If she’s widowed, pay for the baby sitter. If she is divorced or her children are bastards, run away fast
1. I'm so happy I'm gay so this type of situation would be highly unlikely
2. this is insane - you plop out a kid or two, then it's on YOU to pay for their care if you wanna hit the town, not the guy you're going out with on your FIRST DATE
3. casey anthony probably did this (before she uh, you know)
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