So the princess of the family is getting married. Everyone has always done what she wants. She makes a ton of money and her fiancé is east coast old rich who makes way less than her but of course is waiting for his family estate. She has had 6-7 events leading up to the wedding and it’s really getting exhausting. I will definitely go to the wedding because she is my family but I felt bad when she told me I am not allowed to bring my 3 year old son to the wedding. My son is not misbehaved and she likes hanging out with him the few times we do hang out. She is saying no one can bring kids so she is not discriminating only against my son. However, the wedding ceremony is at 2 pm and then the reception is at 6 pm which means we need to find a baby sitter for 8+ hours on a Saturday.
Is it normal to ask guests to NOT bring kids? I’ve heard mixed results from people. Some people say “oh yeah, kids ruin everything.” To “weddings are family events and it’s totally normal to have all ages.”
It puts a burden on parents to find a sitter for that long.
my plan was to attend part of the wedding, the ceremony, and skip the reception but I would be committing suicide with them because they would get pissed and call me selfish that I am not 100% supporting her. they came to my wedding so I definitely feel like I owe them too. I also don’t like that it’s a pattern: they invited us to their cocktail engagement party but told all the guests not to bring kids. We went and had an ok time and thought it was odd, but we did what they told us to do. I thought ok for an engagement party I can see how they just want adults. Now for the wedding they are telling us not to bring our kid.
i am slightly offended and contemplating pissing them off by not going to the reception solely because they are excluding my kid. But that would cause a lot of stress.
or just F it. just go and deal with it.
TLDR: wedding is not allowing kids to any of the events. Is that normal? Or is it normal to have kids at weddings?