Logged into Facebook and the entire News Feed is current and former acquaintances posting pics with their kid for Father's Day. I'm at least 5 years behind in life.
Logged into Facebook and the entire News Feed is current and former acquaintances posting pics with their kid for Father's Day. I'm at least 5 years behind in life.
We started really late on the child thing. There is something to say for having kid(s) when you are a little older. Seriously. There are some very real advantages to doing so.
And I suppose it's okay to not have them, too, for that matter.
Do you want kids?
Sham Armyyyy wrote:
Do you want kids?
Shammy makes a good point. If you've never really thought about having kids up until now, this shouldn't bother you. Also, tons of people are having kids later in life now. Most of my close friends (speaking about dudes) had their first kid late 30s or older
I bought and remodeled a house before I even knew who my future wife would be so that we would have a jump on low cost appropriately located shelter for a family. This has probably never occurred to you. I turned out to be a pretty decent father because that was primary to me long before actually having them. The house quadrupled in value before I got married and has doubled since. Oh yes, it could be argued that I married way up, not that I believe in that.
jamin wrote:
Logged into Facebook and the entire News Feed is current and former acquaintances posting pics with their kid for Father's Day. I'm at least 5 years behind in life.
Looks like you have some catching up to do. Better get busy.
I respect anyone who doesn't have kids and I also respect competent parents. I have zero respect for absent or incompetent parents though. They are a nuisance to society and leave offspring which are generally the same.
I’m 38, no kids.
My dad was 39 when I was born. Other kids at school used to make fun of me for having an old dad. But he was further along in his career than their dads and so had more money. We went on four vacations a year. The downside is that he is a legit old man now, but that comes to everyone (if they’re lucky).
I don’t think I’ll be a dad. It looks like hard work.
Don't worry about kids jamin. The US housing market has already a huge shortage. We don't need more kids.
Stay away from social media (especially FB and Insta). I think it is toxic for you.
1. Social media doesnt mean a single thing. 2. If you have kids, put everything you have into being a loving and patient dad.
Don’t get out a lot?
Kids are the antichrist. The moms posting pics of their kids laying around crapping on the floor are posting these in between fights with their annoyed husbands about how broke they are and how fat their wife got. Stay single or find a good girl that doesn’t want those little demons. Life is different now. You’re going to spend all your life working harder just so you can throw them in daycare and you’ll regret it as there’s no time to look after yourself. Save kids for the suckers. These days it’s not worth it. All these vaccines now, soaring home prices. Just be free and live in a fun city . You don’t want to be the old guy looking miserable pushing a stroller and scooping dog $hit as your obese wife chugs more Starbucks and texts on her phone. People will think you’re the grandparent.
mypredictor wrote:
1. Social media doesnt mean a single thing. 2. If you have kids, put everything you have into being a loving and patient dad.
This, Jamin. Especially #2. Can you subvert your own ego needs for the sake of your wife and children? Until the answer is an unequivocable "YES!", then you are not ready for marriage or children.
PopcornAlley wrote:
I’m 38, no kids.
My dad was 39 when I was born. Other kids at school used to make fun of me for having an old dad. But he was further along in his career than their dads and so had more money. We went on four vacations a year. The downside is that he is a legit old man now, but that comes to everyone (if they’re lucky).
I don’t think I’ll be a dad. It looks like hard work.
No desire to have kids is just the inverse of a desire to have kids, or in other words, nature's way of telling you that your genetics should not propagate.
I (irresponsibly) had my first at 22, which made my 20s and early 30s tough, but now at 48 and with both my kids out of college and out of state, I'm still young-ish, empty nester, at the height of my earnings. It also makes for a nice time.
OK, hater. Is a graying middle aged man pushing a stroller more pathetic than a balding middle aged man drinking alone in a bar full of people at least 20 years younger on a Friday night? The one giving everyone creeper vibes or looking like they came as a wingman for their 22 year old son?
My Dad was 34 when I was born in 1959. Men of that generation were less inclined to be physically fit than men today. I grew up with a fairly sedentary father but that was common for all my friends fathers then. I was super active as a kid and still am. I didn't want to be like my father activity wise and wasn't. I had my two children when I was 26 & 28 and it was a good fit. Wouldn't change a thing.
In general, wouldn’t you need a girlfriend or at least a date before looking to have a kid?
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