How to date when there is a huge mismatch in income/wealth?

You are overthinking this.

Don't use your Porsche for your first date and just be yourself.

You are looking for arm candy and chattel, not a true life partner. You will love your money and status more than you could ever live another human being. Work on your paranoia and misogyny.

You seem like an incredibly misogynist dbag.

Women aren't objects who you "take" to do things, they're not all out to get you and your money that you may make one day.

Grow up and take your humble brag about being middle class (really a strange flex) elsewhere

I'm sure you'll find solace at your first incel meeting.

I mean, it’s a cute flex, but this isn’t 1998. There are youngish people making that in the major city social circles you’ll be running with, and often considerably more. This is the age of the internet, not of grinding your youth away for a low to mid 6 figure salary.

There are more people than you think in that bracket.

I make around 200k and I don’t really I’m that big of a deal. It all goes to my kids who are in college. In one more year my youngest will graduate and then I plan on working a lot less and will be making a lot less money because unlike you I don’t value people by the amount of money they make.

Make Deshaun Watson your role model.

Use your brilliant intuition that apparently has been bestowed upon you towards finding a lady. Good luck.

I dated someone like this. I make above average as an engineer, but she was in finance and my best guess is that she was making about 3x as much as me with benefits that made it so she had virtually no cost of living (apartment paid for, car, gas, insurance, utilities, phone). Part of the problem I foresaw was that she travelled a lot and would have expected me to travel with her in the future, except I felt she was so disconnected with how much things like frequent international travel costs to the average person. I wasn't expecting her to pay my way or anything and I didn't sense she had any intention of paying for me. That's fine, it just wasn't gonna work. She also grew up with a lot of money whereas I didn't. Our incomes, background with money, and mindsets around money just made it where our relationship was doomed.

It could work out if you have that understanding of where the other person stands money-wise. If you're willing to pay for that stuff, then go for it. But, I'd be extremely cautious with putting out there how much you make or how much money you have. I, personally, would rather be super humble and appear to be average so that someone is attracted to me and not the money and expensive vacations or stuff I'm buying for them.

I'm not even sure if this is a serious post though... $100k per year just from investments? Are you expecting that from crypto? If you've got it in the market, at an 8% per year growth, then you apparently have $1.25million invested... and you're in your early 20's? ok.

You’re gonna have a hard time dating if you haven’t figured out women don’t pay for sh!t. You’re gonna be stuck dating strippers and escorts. Oh wait?! Your gay? Whoops. Nvm. You’re still paying for everything. Welcome to dating.

Only way to truly know is to lock someone in before you are rich. Get to it.

The reality though is that most people are only perceived as rich if they are spending all of their money. If you spend like a normal person no one is going to think you have money. Especially when dating. Problem solved.

$300k including investment income is not wealthy, sorry to say. If you are in a big city like NYC there are literally thousands of girls in their 20s pulling more than that. Basically every 28-year-old investment banking VP or PE/VC/HF associate will be there, or fifth-year BigLaw and that’s pretty much standard director-level comp at big corporates which many people attain in their 30s. Plenty of other industries too like doctors will be making that early in their careers, or software engineers. I’ve made over 400k the past couple years and I live pretty much the same way I did at 100k, small one bedroom in a big city, the main difference is I don’t have to budget anymore but no one would ever look at my lifestyle as that of a wealthy person and that’s the case for most of my similarly-situated peers.

I’ve dated a lot of women who make less than me, and some who make considerably more (>1m per year). Since I was focused on the character of the women as well as their looks and other aspects, it was never really a factor. Most of the less financially set women would still insist on paying for some dinners or other things, and with the better-off types it was never really a concern who paid for a nice dinner or whatever since we would both contribute. Unless there are some extenuating circumstances, the woman should at least make an effort to carry her proportional financial weight, once I went out on two dates with a “peer” in terms of comp and she didn’t even make an effort to contribute to the $150 dinners which I took as a bit of a red flag. She was also late both times so that was enough for me despite the fact she was pretty hot.

Let RC be your guide: 🙌

As a very old, out of shape, overweight, bald and not so attractive multi-millionaire, I find it easy to get very poor, younger and extremely hotttt women to date me.

The income gap doesn't seem to matter to them and it certainly doesn't matter to me.

This was my exact thought.

Maybe he means he will have $100k invested? But making $100k through investments seems very unlikely given that he didn’t mention being a multimillionaire already and thinks a 150k salary makes him “rich”

Tell me you’ve never been on a date without telling me you’ve never been on a date.

Like others said nobody cares. 300k/year is not balling out these days.

Unless you are going to raise her standard of living, the money will barely matter to her.

it’s like a 3 step system:

level 1 - he’s below my lifestyle level, that’s a detriment (-1 or more)

level 2 - he’s stable and at the same or slightly above lifestyle (+0.5) **you’re here for most girls unless they are lower income**

level 3 - he’s gonna raise my lifestyle (+1 or more depending on how material she is)

Tbh any girl where it matters that much isn’t worth dating long term anyway. People who value material and “extravagant” travel have hidden mental issues.

Please pay off your student loans first before Biden makes me do it for you.