Husband totally disregards and overrules wife's parenting decisions... Thoughts on this?

The husband sounds like an a**hole. Effective parenting requires communication and agreement or compromise on how things will go, even if the two parents take on different roles. It's important to work together as a team and try to deliver consistent messages.

My wife and I have always been together on parenting decisions. We haven’t always agreed but neither one of us pulled the rug out from each other.

I also coach and my assistant coach and myself are one voice when it comes to disciplinary matters and other decisions.

Hold on, let me ask my wife.

This is the biggest key to a successful or disastrous family. Parents must absolutely support each other in their parenting decisions, working decisions out privately and presenting a united front before the children. When one parent undermines the other parent, you quickly lose all discipline and kids cannot handle the chaos that results. I have stuck to this consistently. Where I really disagree, I say it absent from the kids.

It's fine to have different parenting styles, and it can be useful for kids to get one thing from their mom and one from their dad, but marked rule changes from one to the other are bad because then one gets all the blame.

tteokbokki wrote:

The husband sounds like an a**hole. Effective parenting requires communication and agreement or compromise on how things will go, even if the two parents take on different roles. It's important to work together as a team and try to deliver consistent messages.

Do not rule out the real possibility that the wife is a complete a-hole. Just as likely if not more.

lezbaru4U! wrote:

tteokbokki wrote:

The husband sounds like an a**hole. Effective parenting requires communication and agreement or compromise on how things will go, even if the two parents take on different roles. It's important to work together as a team and try to deliver consistent messages.

Do not rule out the real possibility that the wife is a complete a-hole. Just as likely if not more.

This reeks of sexism and bitterness towards women. Go back and read the original post.

I shouldn’t be surprised - it’s LRC after all.

OP. Are you a man or a woman? If you are a man, it appears to me you may be getting too emotionally close to your co-worker. Am I saying hetero men and women are going to have different friendship levels on the job? Yes I am.

Are you secretly hoping this leads to divorce so you can slide in there?

But to answer your question, they need to be 100% united with the kids.

But ignore the kids for a moment. This guy sounds like a total jerk. In a marriage, whatever decision your spouse makes in wahtever area, you don't ever say, "No that's ridiculous. We're doing the opposite." At a minimum, you'd talk about it and since it's involving the kids, you do it not in front of them.

What I've learned from working a life time with nurses. And having women as my supervisors. They all talked about their husband's to their friends like that. Yet they were "happily " married to them. Parties and fun activities were plenty. But I constantly heard them speak about how bad in some way. About their husband's. But they were happily married. It's just talk and nothing more. If you act on it you're making a mistake. Two very important things I picked up that I keep in mind 1. When a wife talks that way about her husband- disregard it. 2. If a woman is putting her husband down in frequent conversations to another man. She will sleep with that man. Men that were "players" taught me that. And she's not going to leave her husband. Sometimes women deny they're players. And hate to hear the truth. I've heard wives put husband's down in confidence. But if you see them about as couple. You'll see differently. You're only getting a one sided view. I suggest you ignore it unless you get to hear from her husband.

Says the guy with no life experience. If someone is complaining about another person behind their back, regardless of gender, there is always another side to the story. For all we know, she could be having an affair and she could be projecting her guilt, and trying to justify her affair.

This situation could be a million things. One fact is for sure, we have no idea what the real facts are here. Stop being so sensitive and quick to jump to political assumptions throwing around the sexism card.

Kid: hey can i do/have XYZ?

Me: idk go ask ur mom

^that'll be me if im ever a dad

There's an old expression, "Father knows best"...

Whenever someone tells their story on letsrun ininstantly take their silent partners view. No sane person would start threads like this here

Please don’t have kids

tteokbokki wrote:

The husband sounds like an a**hole. Effective parenting requires communication and agreement or compromise on how things will go, even if the two parents take on different roles. It's important to work together as a team and try to deliver consistent messages.

How can the husband be the a-hole. What if the mother is a helicopter parent always saying no to the kids for everything and the dad is more laid back and is saying it’s ok to have a cookie or play a lil PS5 before homework and so he said yes to something she said no to. Is it right to overrule the other parent in front of the kids absolutely and he’s wrong for doing it. But maybe the mother is always doing that to

Him and he was tired of it. Men have to hide their emotions and always have to be the ones to let stuff go. And that isn’t fair in a marriage where it’s suppose to be 50/50. He’s wrong in the situation but maybe the mother is the a-hole overall.

Happy wife= Happy life = Me running, racing, training as much as I like.

Couples therapy has been incredibly helpful for situations like these. We review past scenarios and potential future ones. Usually, a compromise is met and/or there is acceptance after airing grievances.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cn07xzGEigE