I’m a stay at home dad AMA. It’s easier than women say.

Sick burn.

Of course it is. I had a blast doing it but I'm a single dad and only have one kid. More than one would obviously be harder. But I'd much rather stay home with her everyday. It's play time all day.

To the OP:

If it's so easy, do you feel guilty that you aren't doing more? I think I would get bored and pick up some part-time work or do home improvement projects, or something that would help the family.

For example, I could easily coast in my career and still make enough money to be happy. It's just not the way I'm wired. I like being busy and taking on the more difficult problems and learning new skills.

Among those who want to be parents, overall I think it's easier than many people (generally moms/women) make it out to be and harder than those that don't do it (generally dads/men) think it is.

Unsurprisingly, that summarizes much of human nature, where we attribute what we do ourselves as skill/hard-work, and what others do as easy/luck.

I do plenty. Between hobbies and actually staying engaged with my kids. And I do build and make things for around the house. I appreciate an actual question in an AMA. But it doesn’t look like you guys actually read responses.

Wait, let me guess... you are comparing watching the kids from 8-5 to being a stay at home mom? Hahahahaha

That's being a nanny.

Try being the mom 24-7. You know, the mother ship. She's the go-to parent, she still gets everything ready in the am and takes care of them from the minute she gets home and maybe through the night. Stay at home moms don't have the kind of balance you have. They have 24 hour shifts, 7 days a week. Also, breast feed for that recommended year, each baby.

A stay at home mom married to a working dad is not at all like what you are doing. Unless she's watching ESPN after you make her dinner, and she's going golfing with the guys on Sunday, this is not the same.

You are babysitting.

Why do you assume I don’t do any of the wake up routine or bed time routine? Do you think my wife breastfeeds the 6 and 3? I guess some of the moms are a little triggered. I do an hour gym routine after they are out to bed, when the gym was open. And in the morning it’s a half hour run while everyone is still in bed. And when the kids wake up in the night it’s me, because my wife works. Any questions?

Mountain town as in somewhere in Colorado?

Mountain town as in somewhere in Colorado?

Bio Dome wrote:

fulltimepapa wrote:

Was a coach for years but stepped out a couple years back to be a full time stay at home dad. I do not understand why all these women complain about it. Get up early get my run in. Wife goes to work I watch the kids. Laundry, cleaning, and dinner on the table when she comes home. Then gym(before covid).

so, you went from a part time hobby-job to no job, and now you think you're better than some theoretical stay-at-home moms who may not even exist in reality. Impressive.

Lmao

Having big LOL at all the butthurt women in this thread. All OP says is it's not as hard as women claimed and you prove him right by whining how it's sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hard!!!!!!

fulltimepapa wrote:

Was a coach for years but stepped out a couple years back to be a full time stay at home dad. I do not understand why all these women complain about it. Get up early get my run in. Wife goes to work I watch the kids. Laundry, cleaning, and dinner on the table when she comes home. Then gym(before covid).

Hey, OP, why do you have to put down women to talk about your experience as a stay at home dad? Why do you feel comfortable starting this kind of a thread on this website?

While you might find things manageable, maybe you're doing a good job at sharing responsibilities when your wife is home? Does your wife make good money? Maybe economic security matters. Maybe access matters. Maybe race matters. Maybe in some situations men do zero in terms of household responsibilities & that makes it harder for women.

I don't like that you're comfortable enough to take this crusade to LRC & that you probably found a small amount of support because you presented another opportunity to go after women to this forum. I'm disappointed that you drop your experience in a place like this without considering any other factors that might not apply to your situation.

I'm glad things are easy on your end. I hope you like what you're doing. I hope you're a good parent. None of that means that every stay at home mom has it the same.

Good on you and nothing wrong w/it. A lot depends on your personality and I know I don't have what it takes. I do know that when my wife goes out of town and I actually have to pick up kids, coordinate my busy work schedule with their activities and actually feed the little miscreants, all holy hell can break loose. Sometimes I've gotta go to work to relax!

We are not white. But we are an interracial marriage. Wife makes ok money not great. But we saved and invested wisely. I find it interesting that you would be so hurt that somebody finds a role easy compared to others. Thanks for the questions.

any intelligent person knows this. woman have a much higher life expectancy mostly because they had the stay at home part in the past. in countries that are more equal in their role understanding this is actually shrinking (sweden for example). the higher life expectancy comes from generally having the less stressful and easier role as you would guess.

fulltimepapa wrote:

I do plenty. Between hobbies and actually staying engaged with my kids. And I do build and make things for around the house. I appreciate an actual question in an AMA. But it doesn’t look like you guys actually read responses.

I didn't read the whole thread, so sorry if someone else asked that question before, but thanks for the reply.

One thing I will say is how hard/easy that job is probably depends a lot on how much you enjoy it. Women have traditionally just been expected by society to bear children and raise them whether they want to or not. Luckily, that is changing.

How much time are your kids on screens?

There's a reason daytime television exists, and that reason is stay at home moms.

fulltimepapa wrote:

I wish. Sadly we are in a nicer neighborhood and all the ladies are grey bushed. And I care for my wife and kids so that tends to get in the way.

Kinda glad you're not a player.