RE: I have a crush on a girl that works at a coffee shop.

Enough of this crap! Geto you ass over to that coffee shop and ask the girl out! Do it now! Go, damn you! Goooooooooo!!!!!!

dammit, just tell me what coffee shop this is and I'll go there and ask her out myself! Come on O.P. I know this is a troll job but you have to advance the story at some point.

Mr. Obvious wrote:

dammit, just tell me what coffee shop this is and I'll go there and ask her out myself! Come on O.P. I know this is a troll job but you have to advance the story at some point.

This isn't a troll thread. Everything that has happened has been real. I'm not rushing things just so I can have something to post. I'm still recovering from ex who dumped me two months ago. I'm a little cautious to trust girls right now because of what happened with my ex. Today I felt confident when talking to her, a little jittery cause of the coffee but it was cool. I think we have a little something going, a little chemistry but as I said I don't know. Nor do I trust girls so even if there is chemistry I'm hesitant to try something. If you wan't specifics I may give you specifics, but I'm getting a little weirded out myself by posting day by day updates of what's going between this girl and I.

4:25_9:45_15:39 wrote:

thats not true at all. she can like you and then be creeped out by some facebook stalking for sure. or she can be unsure about you and then you can be suave and ask her out smoothly.

dont go with the facebook approach. you will come off as stalking or desperate. at least wait until she tells you her name or you ask her out to add her on facebook.

100% false. First off facebook has options, and she doesn't have to accept you as a friend. It's a MUCH less invasive way to friend someone where she can just say no with a click of a button, and if the girls likes him, she'll be thrilled he friended her.

A girl would only find it "stalking" or "desperate" if she wasn't interested. Otherwise she'll just find it flattering and be excited.

You must be a bit outdated, and living in the world of "the internet is creepy".

stuck with match.com wrote:

but I'm getting a little weirded out myself by posting day by day updates of what's going between this girl and I.

I enjoy it.

At least you actually follow your threads up, 99.99% of people don't give any feedback after they post the OP.

I know that Mr. Obvious has retired from those duties, but who the hell has it taken eight pages for someone to ask for some pics???

Mrr82 wrote:

You must be a bit outdated, and living in the world of "the internet is creepy".

You haven't dated many women if you believe tracking down a vague acquaintance on facebook is a good dating technique. Maybe he should come in dressed as a clown and give her balloons instead? Beyond being weird, facebook is the opposite of attractive. It is for timid man children. It can only hurt his chances.

OP, she may flirt with you for tips. You are clearly desperate and lacking confidence. Ask her out and be done with it. Any answer other than yes from her really means it's never happening.

The good news to the OP and everyone else out there. You're still young and as more and more girls are wanting to get married to people like you as you get older.

From ages 25-35, you can go out with a wider range of women. remember most women want someone same age or bit older so when you're in college your options are limited to teenagers and young 20s girls (and maybe fewer because many of this select group are looking for a guy who is independent and working)

As such, dont worry too much about having to have a girlfriend. I just graduated college and all the girls are desperate to get married but the guys are still having fun.

so have fun out there. and be confident and realize there will be plenty of opportunities along the way whatever happens with this coffee girl. You sound like I sounded right after my relationship with a girl 3 years ago i am still a bit bitter over. not that im upset about it but right after the breakup i was kind of acting like a desperate ahole by going out to bars with a wing man and trying to talk to girls. now ive just learned to be myself and it'll come.

Mrr82 wrote:

100% false. First off facebook has options, and she doesn't have to accept you as a friend. It's a MUCH less invasive way to friend someone where she can just say no with a click of a button, and if the girls likes him, she'll be thrilled he friended her.

A girl would only find it "stalking" or "desperate" if she wasn't interested. Otherwise she'll just find it flattering and be excited.

You must be a bit outdated, and living in the world of "the internet is creepy".

nope thats stupid and naive. unless youre good friends with someone i think it comes off as creepy to friend request. youre asking her to give you all this info (age, relationship status, pics, interests, all that other stuff) but you only chat in between her coffee orders. with facebook you gotta be friends first or i think youre gonna come off as hiding behind the internet or creepy. although ive sent two friend requests to jordan hasay since ive been on facebook so obvs i dont have a problem with it ha. good luck!

4:25_9:45_15:39 wrote:nope thats stupid and naive. unless youre good friends with someone i think it comes off as creepy to friend request. youre asking her to give you all this info (age, relationship status, pics, interests, all that other stuff) but you only chat in between her coffee orders. with facebook you gotta be friends first or i think youre gonna come off as hiding behind the internet or creepy. although ive sent two friend requests to jordan hasay since ive been on facebook so obvs i dont have a problem with it ha. good luck!

Think about what you are saying, this whole concept is going RIGHT over your head. What do you think asking someone out on a date would get you if they say yes? Relationship status, age, interests, pics, all that other stuff. No difference at all. If she's interested, she'll share those things, whether it's on a date, or if it's on facebook. Also if she says yes to going out on a date, you thikn she'd have a problem with adding you on facebook? the order is irrelevant, and both get you the same access, except one is more personal and you can't get rid of them with the click of a button if you don't like the date.

Not to mention you on facebook you can accept someone as a friend and not let them see your relationship status, pics, age, interests. again...you are not with the times.

im a freshman in college!! whats "with the times"? 15 year old girls that walk around the mall all day?

put yourself in the girl's shoes. here is a guy who you talk to while serving him coffee or while you have spare time in between customers. it sounds like they talk a lot and that she likes chatting. but she hasn't given him her last name. he used her first name and the fact that she must go to this college to find her on facebook. that is where it comes off as creepy. i dont think its a big deal and ive done it before, but she will realize it and its a turn off.

you're saying that adding someone on facebook is the same "access" as going on a date. you don't want to learn that info online. you want to talk to her on a date. i wouldnt lie to you OP! ask her outttttt.

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stuck with match.com wrote:

I have a crush on this girl that works at a coffee shop. I go to this coffee shop everyday and get the same thing. So She often knows what I want even before I ask for it. Every time I go in we talk a little bit. I believe there is a little chemistry between us. How can I show her that I am interested. Also if she rejects me will it be weird because she makes coffee for me everyday.

I have a crush on a girl at Supercuts. It kind of sucks because, unlike you, I only go there once a month, and the LAST TWO TIMES I've gotten the other lady. I don't want to say "no, I'm waiting for ______." But I guess the good thing is that if I were to ask her out and not do so well, it wouldn't be too awkward. I make my own coffee.

girl probs in college, you definitely are my favorite poster. Thank you for all of your great advice over the past weeks, you've really helped. I am curious to know how that wing man thing worked out. Did you have much success with it. Two weekends ago I was at a bar with some friends and some dude that I didn't really know asked me I wanted to talk to girls together. Sort of like the wingman approach. I declined and told him no. I didn't see much success in that approach.

i wonder how much money this dipshit is going to blow on coffee by hanging around and dragging his heels trying to find his testicles waiting to ask her out. hahahahah. pussy.